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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 434005"><p>The kids leaving the home at 18 or after college is not a global norm--it's an American norm. In many European countries, kids live at home deep into their twenties, usually until they marry or cohabit with someone or their careers lift off enough that they can easily afford their own place. And parents don't mind this, as it's the norm and, after all the trouble that kids typically are in their teens, it's nice to enjoy their company once they settle down and become young adults. And adult kids are expected to pull their weight, help out financially and with chores/errands, etc--i.e., they don't just keep on living dependently as if childhood had never ended (as difficult children seem to expect and insist upon). A good example is Rafael Nadal: in mid-20s, very rich and accomplished in his career as pro athlete, but he lived at home (in Majorca) with his parents until very recently (when they split up) and no one thought it odd or even notable.</p><p></p><p>The problem is when they *insist upon* living parasitically at home despite terrible behavior, treating parents like dirt, violating household rules, making no contribution, etc etc. This seems to be entirely the province of difficult children rather than a cultural norm.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 434005"] The kids leaving the home at 18 or after college is not a global norm--it's an American norm. In many European countries, kids live at home deep into their twenties, usually until they marry or cohabit with someone or their careers lift off enough that they can easily afford their own place. And parents don't mind this, as it's the norm and, after all the trouble that kids typically are in their teens, it's nice to enjoy their company once they settle down and become young adults. And adult kids are expected to pull their weight, help out financially and with chores/errands, etc--i.e., they don't just keep on living dependently as if childhood had never ended (as difficult children seem to expect and insist upon). A good example is Rafael Nadal: in mid-20s, very rich and accomplished in his career as pro athlete, but he lived at home (in Majorca) with his parents until very recently (when they split up) and no one thought it odd or even notable. The problem is when they *insist upon* living parasitically at home despite terrible behavior, treating parents like dirt, violating household rules, making no contribution, etc etc. This seems to be entirely the province of difficult children rather than a cultural norm. [/QUOTE]
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