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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 419847" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>wow ok marg klmno you both had alot to say lol. and thanks!</p><p> </p><p>marg i see some of your points, yet i was on a downer when i posted the what have i done wrong thread that night. ya know how that goes. i sat back today thinking of the cursing the in my face etc. i have to say i think i did ok, i'm good with what i've done with her in the past. i know i've made my mistakes i see some of your points. should of checked stupid window yet i was rushing out in middle of night. yet therapist and i went over it today she said jen you've done great, this kid started with-you while you were in portland and you manged to care for difficult child at hospital each day and dodge police phone calls and easy child melting down miles and miles away. she said you have supplied her with all the tools she choses not to take them. on and on we went. so i'm not beating me up anymore, it'll be my new mantra.</p><p> </p><p>klmno she isn't manipulating me because i told her ill pay for therapy. i think your getting a bit ahead of yourself here. i didn't state i'll cook you dinner some nights, nor did i state i'll get you cell or a job. i said simply i'll pay for therapy. tha'Tourette's Syndrome it. that isnt' manipulation. that's me just saying you need help great if you wanna get it i'll pay for it. let's remember also shes' almost 18. i'm not checking with cops or anything either. i'm doing what i planned on doing.</p><p> </p><p>if she wants to return someday than great sure with a plan her following rules. plus it'll be after shes' 18 soooo ill be able to open the door and say time to go. if she caves before sat. and says oh i want to stay. ok same plan as before you gotta follow rules, if she doesn't door will be open again.</p><p> </p><p>she already knows where she's staying i heard her on phone while walking by her room. she's calling about jobs and couldn't figure out what number to give.</p><p> </p><p>i gotta be honest the talk wasn't drama filled at all. she even openly admitted this isnt' healthy for you, difficult child the other kids or me. leaving is the best option for me because i dont' want to snow you and say i'll follow the rules and than not. i have to say it and mean it. she also admitted she has problems and is spiraling and she knows she needs the therapy.</p><p> </p><p>these are all tips i'll use on the next teenager. difficult child should prove to be interesting. i'm not losing her forever, she is alive and well. sh'es just going to be somewhere else, and away from me. it might not be so bad for her. let her see how other ppl function, let all of it go on. maybe in the end she'll say wow home wasnt' so bad afterall. </p><p> </p><p>it def isnt' what or how i pictured things occuring. yet is life ever what we exactly imagined it would be?? I love her, hopefully she'll be well, take care of her own needs and clean her act up. it's really up to her now. i wash my hands except the therapy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 419847, member: 4514"] wow ok marg klmno you both had alot to say lol. and thanks! marg i see some of your points, yet i was on a downer when i posted the what have i done wrong thread that night. ya know how that goes. i sat back today thinking of the cursing the in my face etc. i have to say i think i did ok, i'm good with what i've done with her in the past. i know i've made my mistakes i see some of your points. should of checked stupid window yet i was rushing out in middle of night. yet therapist and i went over it today she said jen you've done great, this kid started with-you while you were in portland and you manged to care for difficult child at hospital each day and dodge police phone calls and easy child melting down miles and miles away. she said you have supplied her with all the tools she choses not to take them. on and on we went. so i'm not beating me up anymore, it'll be my new mantra. klmno she isn't manipulating me because i told her ill pay for therapy. i think your getting a bit ahead of yourself here. i didn't state i'll cook you dinner some nights, nor did i state i'll get you cell or a job. i said simply i'll pay for therapy. tha'Tourette's Syndrome it. that isnt' manipulation. that's me just saying you need help great if you wanna get it i'll pay for it. let's remember also shes' almost 18. i'm not checking with cops or anything either. i'm doing what i planned on doing. if she wants to return someday than great sure with a plan her following rules. plus it'll be after shes' 18 soooo ill be able to open the door and say time to go. if she caves before sat. and says oh i want to stay. ok same plan as before you gotta follow rules, if she doesn't door will be open again. she already knows where she's staying i heard her on phone while walking by her room. she's calling about jobs and couldn't figure out what number to give. i gotta be honest the talk wasn't drama filled at all. she even openly admitted this isnt' healthy for you, difficult child the other kids or me. leaving is the best option for me because i dont' want to snow you and say i'll follow the rules and than not. i have to say it and mean it. she also admitted she has problems and is spiraling and she knows she needs the therapy. these are all tips i'll use on the next teenager. difficult child should prove to be interesting. i'm not losing her forever, she is alive and well. sh'es just going to be somewhere else, and away from me. it might not be so bad for her. let her see how other ppl function, let all of it go on. maybe in the end she'll say wow home wasnt' so bad afterall. it def isnt' what or how i pictured things occuring. yet is life ever what we exactly imagined it would be?? I love her, hopefully she'll be well, take care of her own needs and clean her act up. it's really up to her now. i wash my hands except the therapy. [/QUOTE]
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