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<blockquote data-quote="Diana" data-source="post: 610199" data-attributes="member: 17086"><p>I honestly do not understand the "rule" that a wedding is to be focused on the bride and her mother. It's the groom's wedding too and it's just as important to his parents as it is the bride's parents. If the groom's parents want to be involved and especially if they are financially providing for this wedding - then every effort should be made to include them just as much as the bride's parents are included.</p><p></p><p>It's so unfair that at a time when two families are coming together - it's starts off automatically with a division as to which side is more important and while society paints the mother in law as the one who causes all the friction it's actually the bride and her family who start the ball rolling with the way they handle the engagement and wedding.</p><p></p><p>My suggestion to future brides - if you love this man you are about to marry so much then show respect to the people that spent the first 18+ years of his life raising him to be the man that you love.. and include them in this special day to honor the role that they have played in this marriage taking place.</p><p></p><p>It is hard being the mother of the groom and even more so when that young man is your only child and you've had a very good relationship with them their whole life. This day shouldn't feel like a "goodbye" but the more I research online the more I see that is exactly what it feels like for so many of these mom's. If I was the bride I would want the tears his mother is crying to be happy tears and not tears of sadness. I wouldn't want her to feel like I am taking her son away but rather that I am becoming the daughter she never had. Why in the world would any bride want to start her marriage off by excluding the woman who gave her husband life?</p><p></p><p>I really dislike all the wedding "rules" that someone put in place. I hope my future daughter-in-law breaks all the rules and makes their wedding planning and day a beautiful love filled day with LOTS of happy tears. </p><p></p><p>They are about to be engaged and even though my son has assured me that he won't allow his father and I to be excluded - I still feel sad that I'm losing my son and I hate that I feel this way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Diana, post: 610199, member: 17086"] I honestly do not understand the "rule" that a wedding is to be focused on the bride and her mother. It's the groom's wedding too and it's just as important to his parents as it is the bride's parents. If the groom's parents want to be involved and especially if they are financially providing for this wedding - then every effort should be made to include them just as much as the bride's parents are included. It's so unfair that at a time when two families are coming together - it's starts off automatically with a division as to which side is more important and while society paints the mother in law as the one who causes all the friction it's actually the bride and her family who start the ball rolling with the way they handle the engagement and wedding. My suggestion to future brides - if you love this man you are about to marry so much then show respect to the people that spent the first 18+ years of his life raising him to be the man that you love.. and include them in this special day to honor the role that they have played in this marriage taking place. It is hard being the mother of the groom and even more so when that young man is your only child and you've had a very good relationship with them their whole life. This day shouldn't feel like a "goodbye" but the more I research online the more I see that is exactly what it feels like for so many of these mom's. If I was the bride I would want the tears his mother is crying to be happy tears and not tears of sadness. I wouldn't want her to feel like I am taking her son away but rather that I am becoming the daughter she never had. Why in the world would any bride want to start her marriage off by excluding the woman who gave her husband life? I really dislike all the wedding "rules" that someone put in place. I hope my future daughter-in-law breaks all the rules and makes their wedding planning and day a beautiful love filled day with LOTS of happy tears. They are about to be engaged and even though my son has assured me that he won't allow his father and I to be excluded - I still feel sad that I'm losing my son and I hate that I feel this way. [/QUOTE]
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