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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 412713" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Castle - </p><p> </p><p>I went to the source on this one and asked my son - he's 20 what he thought about this. At first he chuckled and he said "Well depending on how old he is - does he even have friends? I mean Mom the entire time I was in school who did I ever have as a friend? Everyone hated me. Then if you had asked the neighbors which one of THEIR Moms would have ever allowed their kid to go anywhere with us?" True enough. Then we jokingly said "Rent a friend?" I mean when you go down the road at age 5 with a scythe screaming you're going to kill someone - kinda weeds out the playmates. We did have the kids across the street, but mostly because their Mom was Schizophrenic and their Dad was an alcoholic. </p><p> </p><p>The other thing I think this is counter-productive in is stigma. Dude said it's enough that the kids know you are in special education and peek through the window of that class and they are taught NOT to say anything in school about it - but he said he got into more fights going to the bus about "Special Education' and it caused HIM to get into trouble because he was always the first one to strike and the other kids would always say no one said anything the nutty kid just flipped. Having to bring someone TO school afterwards to find out more about how it is for them sounds great but I think we're a long way from those social barriers coming down, and parents arent going to jump at that opportunity. Someone needs a better approach. We had a huge pizza night with other like-minded parents at the alternative school and that was cool - we had parenting classes and the kids had fun in the gym. That we all liked. No stigma -and everyone had something in common. </p><p> </p><p>Do you have an IEP for your son? If you don't now would be the time to demand that. As far as Aspergers testing - make a separate post and I'm sure you will get tons of info on how to - Maybe even under the Special Education forum. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 412713, member: 4964"] Castle - I went to the source on this one and asked my son - he's 20 what he thought about this. At first he chuckled and he said "Well depending on how old he is - does he even have friends? I mean Mom the entire time I was in school who did I ever have as a friend? Everyone hated me. Then if you had asked the neighbors which one of THEIR Moms would have ever allowed their kid to go anywhere with us?" True enough. Then we jokingly said "Rent a friend?" I mean when you go down the road at age 5 with a scythe screaming you're going to kill someone - kinda weeds out the playmates. We did have the kids across the street, but mostly because their Mom was Schizophrenic and their Dad was an alcoholic. The other thing I think this is counter-productive in is stigma. Dude said it's enough that the kids know you are in special education and peek through the window of that class and they are taught NOT to say anything in school about it - but he said he got into more fights going to the bus about "Special Education' and it caused HIM to get into trouble because he was always the first one to strike and the other kids would always say no one said anything the nutty kid just flipped. Having to bring someone TO school afterwards to find out more about how it is for them sounds great but I think we're a long way from those social barriers coming down, and parents arent going to jump at that opportunity. Someone needs a better approach. We had a huge pizza night with other like-minded parents at the alternative school and that was cool - we had parenting classes and the kids had fun in the gym. That we all liked. No stigma -and everyone had something in common. Do you have an IEP for your son? If you don't now would be the time to demand that. As far as Aspergers testing - make a separate post and I'm sure you will get tons of info on how to - Maybe even under the Special Education forum. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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