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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 22165" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Janet, for what it's worth, i don't think it's immature or wrong at all to expect a committed relationship NOT to include friends of the opposite sex that the other person sees alone. I will copy and paste my response to Amy, when I'm done with my speel...lol. Frankly, it has never crossed my mind to have friendships with other men that didn't include my hub right there with me. The potential for attraction to spark and for stuff we don't expect or plan on or want to happen is too great. Do we all look at other people of the opposite sex? SURE!!!! Ask me who I think is a hottie on GREYS ANATOMY or my soap operas :smile: I'll give you a laundry list. These are "safe" men who I wlil never meet. That kind of cute guy who lives next door (hypothetical) is another issue. He's available and right near me. I think women are great fun and all my close friends are women. I have no male friends that aren't their husbands, and we share the friendships. Here is my answer to Amy, and a real life experience that evolved from my best friend's innocent friendship with a male:</p><p>Below is my post to Amy:</p><p>Like to add my closest friend started out having just a friendship with a man. The attraction wasn't there at first, but it grew. They ended up sneaking around (not having sex, but everything but) for TEN years and her husband never knew. Because it is so easy for a spark to fly when you're friends with somebody of the opposite sex, I always avoided it and expected my hubs ( had two...lol) to also avoid it. Both of them agreed--it was not even an issue we had to talk about. Although I divorced hub 1, it had nothing to do with cheating. I do think it's risky. I think there are plenty of cool people of our own sex to hang with. JMO</p><p>_________________________</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 22165, member: 1550"] Janet, for what it's worth, i don't think it's immature or wrong at all to expect a committed relationship NOT to include friends of the opposite sex that the other person sees alone. I will copy and paste my response to Amy, when I'm done with my speel...lol. Frankly, it has never crossed my mind to have friendships with other men that didn't include my hub right there with me. The potential for attraction to spark and for stuff we don't expect or plan on or want to happen is too great. Do we all look at other people of the opposite sex? SURE!!!! Ask me who I think is a hottie on GREYS ANATOMY or my soap operas [img]:smile:[/img] I'll give you a laundry list. These are "safe" men who I wlil never meet. That kind of cute guy who lives next door (hypothetical) is another issue. He's available and right near me. I think women are great fun and all my close friends are women. I have no male friends that aren't their husbands, and we share the friendships. Here is my answer to Amy, and a real life experience that evolved from my best friend's innocent friendship with a male: Below is my post to Amy: Like to add my closest friend started out having just a friendship with a man. The attraction wasn't there at first, but it grew. They ended up sneaking around (not having sex, but everything but) for TEN years and her husband never knew. Because it is so easy for a spark to fly when you're friends with somebody of the opposite sex, I always avoided it and expected my hubs ( had two...lol) to also avoid it. Both of them agreed--it was not even an issue we had to talk about. Although I divorced hub 1, it had nothing to do with cheating. I do think it's risky. I think there are plenty of cool people of our own sex to hang with. JMO _________________________ [/QUOTE]
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