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<blockquote data-quote="VLong" data-source="post: 23328" data-attributes="member: 3458"><p>Janet,</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you are going thru this and just wanted to send support. </p><p></p><p>After reading all of the posts, the one thing that keeps coming to my mind is even if you did hear him break it off would you feel any differently? Words are easy to speak, actions harder to live. husband and I went thru a long, long period of time (about 20-25 years ago) when there was no trust, nada, zip, zilch even when I heard the words coming out of his mouth and him with me. Obviously we didn't stay together then and it took him over 10 years to start trusting me again and it took me til we were married almost a year to know that he wasn't going to leave me and break my heart again. Trust is the HUGE deal breaker in our home. However, that being said, to get to this point in our relationship, sometimes we just had to take a leap of faith and PROVE to each other that we were trustworthy again. Also, sometimes we just had to put the past completely out of the picture and deal with the present and take it one day at a time. And almost 6 years later those days have added up to a lot of happiness and an extremely stable, loving marriage. Was it easy? No way. Was it something we both at one time or another wanted to give up on? Maybe. Was it worth it? More than life itself. </p><p></p><p>I'm not really sure where this post is leading, but I do know how happy, truly happy boyfriend has made you, Ant and Kaleb. I think that if you BOTH want to work it out it has to be together. Rescuers are hard people to be with, unless you have the kind of faith and trust in them that is totally unshakeable. On the other hand, you know him, we don't and I believe in trusting in gut feelings. Do you honestly, deep down inside feel he will cut it off or is he just saying it to make you happy and keep you happy? </p><p></p><p>I hope you can work it out together and three years is a long time to throw away. Would he consider counseling? Would you?</p><p></p><p>Just know, no matter the outcome, we are here for you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="VLong, post: 23328, member: 3458"] Janet, I am so sorry that you are going thru this and just wanted to send support. After reading all of the posts, the one thing that keeps coming to my mind is even if you did hear him break it off would you feel any differently? Words are easy to speak, actions harder to live. husband and I went thru a long, long period of time (about 20-25 years ago) when there was no trust, nada, zip, zilch even when I heard the words coming out of his mouth and him with me. Obviously we didn't stay together then and it took him over 10 years to start trusting me again and it took me til we were married almost a year to know that he wasn't going to leave me and break my heart again. Trust is the HUGE deal breaker in our home. However, that being said, to get to this point in our relationship, sometimes we just had to take a leap of faith and PROVE to each other that we were trustworthy again. Also, sometimes we just had to put the past completely out of the picture and deal with the present and take it one day at a time. And almost 6 years later those days have added up to a lot of happiness and an extremely stable, loving marriage. Was it easy? No way. Was it something we both at one time or another wanted to give up on? Maybe. Was it worth it? More than life itself. I'm not really sure where this post is leading, but I do know how happy, truly happy boyfriend has made you, Ant and Kaleb. I think that if you BOTH want to work it out it has to be together. Rescuers are hard people to be with, unless you have the kind of faith and trust in them that is totally unshakeable. On the other hand, you know him, we don't and I believe in trusting in gut feelings. Do you honestly, deep down inside feel he will cut it off or is he just saying it to make you happy and keep you happy? I hope you can work it out together and three years is a long time to throw away. Would he consider counseling? Would you? Just know, no matter the outcome, we are here for you! [/QUOTE]
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