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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 742737" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I wont diagnose her. But I am sorry.</p><p></p><p>My guess is either she is not really clean or she just is a nasty person whether she takes drugs or is clean. Obviously she, like MANY adult children who bring us here, does not acknowledge or appreciate what you have done for her and cares not if she hurts you. You' d be surprised at how many adult kids who bring us here also WANT to hurt us, the ones who loved them best, rescued them, gave them so much. Often, after all the giving, they still blame us for their rotten lives and cut us off and never really tell us why. Grandkids are forced into the estrangement. Its awful and cruel <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p><p></p><p>Your daughter obviously by her behavior is not a particularly caring person. She has lost her son and is doing nothing to get visitation. That isnt normal. None of her behavior is the norm for adult kids. It isnt your fault. Kids grow up and forget or disregard what we taught them. Happens all the time.</p><p></p><p>The good news, and it may not sound good now but one day maybe...is that although you can't control her behavior or get rational answers, you can change how YOU behave. I would never give her another dime and start focusing on your own life. Yes, you still have a life and it can be great! You matter!!! You are precious and loving!!!</p><p></p><p>You must have other loved ones who are kind and loving....give them more of your time. Hang with nice friends. Do your hobbies, find new interests, take a class, vacation, dance, sing. You are not your daughter. Her bad life is not your bad life. You can only do so much about your sweet granddaughter but if your daughter isnt taking care of her, do call CPS.</p><p></p><p>If you stay healthy and happy, that is the best gift you can give yourself and loved ones who truly care for you. And your granddaughter. She needs you healthy. </p><p></p><p>Remember this too. It is powerful. Please read!</p><p></p><p>God grant me the Serenity to accept the things we can not change,</p><p>The Courage to change the things I can,</p><p>And the Wisdom to know the difference.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 742737, member: 1550"] I wont diagnose her. But I am sorry. My guess is either she is not really clean or she just is a nasty person whether she takes drugs or is clean. Obviously she, like MANY adult children who bring us here, does not acknowledge or appreciate what you have done for her and cares not if she hurts you. You' d be surprised at how many adult kids who bring us here also WANT to hurt us, the ones who loved them best, rescued them, gave them so much. Often, after all the giving, they still blame us for their rotten lives and cut us off and never really tell us why. Grandkids are forced into the estrangement. Its awful and cruel :( Your daughter obviously by her behavior is not a particularly caring person. She has lost her son and is doing nothing to get visitation. That isnt normal. None of her behavior is the norm for adult kids. It isnt your fault. Kids grow up and forget or disregard what we taught them. Happens all the time. The good news, and it may not sound good now but one day maybe...is that although you can't control her behavior or get rational answers, you can change how YOU behave. I would never give her another dime and start focusing on your own life. Yes, you still have a life and it can be great! You matter!!! You are precious and loving!!! You must have other loved ones who are kind and loving....give them more of your time. Hang with nice friends. Do your hobbies, find new interests, take a class, vacation, dance, sing. You are not your daughter. Her bad life is not your bad life. You can only do so much about your sweet granddaughter but if your daughter isnt taking care of her, do call CPS. If you stay healthy and happy, that is the best gift you can give yourself and loved ones who truly care for you. And your granddaughter. She needs you healthy. Remember this too. It is powerful. Please read! God grant me the Serenity to accept the things we can not change, The Courage to change the things I can, And the Wisdom to know the difference. [/QUOTE]
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