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<blockquote data-quote="jal" data-source="post: 350974" data-attributes="member: 3477"><p>I don't have an empty nest (although most days I wish I did - long way to go), and this post just struck a cord with me as someone who is very close to their own parents. But crazy in VA you have every right to enjoy your empty nest! You've earned it. OK, she has a 3 yr old and another on the way @ 22. She has to know what she has gotten herself in to. You make time to spend with-your grandchild EVERY other weekend and it's still not enough for her? I am sorry, I may sound very harsh, but she is very selfish. My husband and I have been together since we were 18. Got married and had our planned child @ 29 (unfortunately he's a difficult child). No way in hades do we expect our parents to take him on a regular basis or to be there at our beckon call. He's hard enough for us the last thing we want is to project that onto them. They help when really needed and my parents live 1 min away and mother in law is 5. The way I view my parents is that they have earned the right to have their own life and their vacations and whatever they choose to do (dinner, movies, sports events). They struggled for us (my brother and I) and now have the means to vacation and enjoy their life. I would never begrudge them that. You are absolutely right to stick to your boundries and not feel bad about it.</p><p></p><p>You've done your job and the only thing that should matter is that you are there in an emergency. The funny thing is I have found that my parents have a more active social life now, more then they did in their 30's & 40's. And I say good for them. It makes me happy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jal, post: 350974, member: 3477"] I don't have an empty nest (although most days I wish I did - long way to go), and this post just struck a cord with me as someone who is very close to their own parents. But crazy in VA you have every right to enjoy your empty nest! You've earned it. OK, she has a 3 yr old and another on the way @ 22. She has to know what she has gotten herself in to. You make time to spend with-your grandchild EVERY other weekend and it's still not enough for her? I am sorry, I may sound very harsh, but she is very selfish. My husband and I have been together since we were 18. Got married and had our planned child @ 29 (unfortunately he's a difficult child). No way in hades do we expect our parents to take him on a regular basis or to be there at our beckon call. He's hard enough for us the last thing we want is to project that onto them. They help when really needed and my parents live 1 min away and mother in law is 5. The way I view my parents is that they have earned the right to have their own life and their vacations and whatever they choose to do (dinner, movies, sports events). They struggled for us (my brother and I) and now have the means to vacation and enjoy their life. I would never begrudge them that. You are absolutely right to stick to your boundries and not feel bad about it. You've done your job and the only thing that should matter is that you are there in an emergency. The funny thing is I have found that my parents have a more active social life now, more then they did in their 30's & 40's. And I say good for them. It makes me happy. [/QUOTE]
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