Do any of you find that your adult children are actually "jealous" of your lifestyle now that you have an empty nest? As I've posted here before, Youngest can be very needy. She seems to think I don't spend enough time with my grandson, and is constantly throwing out comments that other people's mothers spend more time with their grandkids than I do, other famlies do more stuff together, see each other more often, etc. etc. etc. If she calls me and I'm out, sometimes she'll say, "oh, I should have known you'd be out," in an accusing sort of tone. It's a ridiculous accusation, of course. I've committed to spending specific blocks of time with my grandson every other weekend, so she'll get a break and he and I can build our relationship. In between those times, I frequently see him, either by stopping by to say hi (and get my "Aidan fix," as I call it), or occasionally watching him at her place while she goes grocery shopiong or runs another errand. Nothing regular, but it's not like I ignore him or them for weeks on end. I talk to Youngest almost every day on the phone. I respond to her texts, sometimes several in a day. I'm working on backing off of all that. I've begun to stop answering my cell phone if she calls while I am out, because I don't want her to think i am so "available" all the time. I want to be there for her, bot not 24/7. She's a grown-up now. I think she is jealous. She's 22, has a 3 year old and another on the way. She's tied herself down, and is watching her peers have fun, start careers, go to school. I am 48 years young, have an extremely active social life and many friends. She doesn't get to have a social life, and she resents mine. Today, she posted a quote on her FB profile about how "family should come first" and that some people are more concerned with their friends and career than with their families. That quote was undoubtedly written about the immediate family unit, parents with children still at home, spouses and children coming before friends/career, etc. It's not meant to be about parents of adult children who have their own kids. You're *supposed* to have your own life once you're out of your parents house, and not want them around constantly. Likewise, parents should have their own lives, right? Sure, my family will always come first when it counts, as in an emergency, but overall my role is different now. Famly comes first when she calls me about some issue she's having with my grandson, when I'm out with friends and can't discuss it with her. Nope, she doesn't come first in that scenario. Nor does it mean that she comes first when she wants me to watch Aidan overnight so she can go somewhere with her fiance, and I have plans to go to a concert that night. Nope, I come first in that scenario. Just wondering if others have dealt with this. When I Googled "empty nest" etc., most of what comes up is articles about those who are mourning the empty nest. I'm embracing it.. but Youngest is resentful as heck about that. I know I'm right to keep the boundaries I'm keeping ... and I don't react to her "accusations" of "neglect" as much as I did at first, becuase I know I'm a good grandmother and mother. But still ... it bugs me.