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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 720988" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I would. If your criteria is met, your boundaries respected, you're treated with respect and you feel you can handle seeing her at this point, then by all means, go ahead and spend time with your daughter. You'll find out if it will work or not when you see her. She may be missing you and want to spend time with you and then resume her own life making her own choices........or she may be manipulating you....which you'll know soon enough. It's the behavior you're detaching from. Hopefully, you and she will be able to create a neutral bridge to connect upon. One mother saw her son weekly for 10 minutes in her car near the shelter he was in....it was all she could handle at the time, but she was true to herself. As he improved, the time expanded. I agree about accepting her for who she is......yet make sure you are respected. One thing I've learned and read a lot here is don't ask a lot of questions.....you're likely not going to like the answers......refrain, step back and try to enjoy her without judgment, questions and expectations. I hope it works out for you two.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 720988, member: 13542"] I would. If your criteria is met, your boundaries respected, you're treated with respect and you feel you can handle seeing her at this point, then by all means, go ahead and spend time with your daughter. You'll find out if it will work or not when you see her. She may be missing you and want to spend time with you and then resume her own life making her own choices........or she may be manipulating you....which you'll know soon enough. It's the behavior you're detaching from. Hopefully, you and she will be able to create a neutral bridge to connect upon. One mother saw her son weekly for 10 minutes in her car near the shelter he was in....it was all she could handle at the time, but she was true to herself. As he improved, the time expanded. I agree about accepting her for who she is......yet make sure you are respected. One thing I've learned and read a lot here is don't ask a lot of questions.....you're likely not going to like the answers......refrain, step back and try to enjoy her without judgment, questions and expectations. I hope it works out for you two. [/QUOTE]
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