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End of my rope...I want nothing more to do with him
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 191371" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Janet, </p><p> </p><p>I wish I had read your post and thought to myself that I knew exactly what to say to you. Maybe i have something that can help you understand you are not alone. </p><p> </p><p>Our children seem to have an innate ability to hyperfocus on the ONE thing that will trigger a hurtful memory, feeling and then stand back like a fire starter and get their fire. THEN they sit back and roast us like marshmallows. </p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't know that unless I lived with one. One that seems to, on occasion teeter between being kind and horribly mean. Personally - over the years you have told us about your Mom, and her mental illness and her treatment of you. I feel sorry that I can't explain to Dude any better than I can you, that his Father's mental illness doesn't make him LIKE him in any way. </p><p> </p><p>I think you know this, even without getting ripped about it. What I DO KNOW is that in the last week, month, 18 years.....You've had an incredible amount on your plate with your own kids - let alone what you survived and overcame with your childhood. </p><p> </p><p>You're a good person- I like you, and while I "wish" that that would be enough for you to go "Oh okay Star, Gosh yes I see, you are right I am not a bad Mom, silly me for thinking and letting Cory (of all people) to get the best of me." I know what you are going through. </p><p> </p><p>So kid - I'm another oar in the boat. Which; techincally means now you won't row in circles - we'll just keep going and see where we get. </p><p> </p><p>ROWING ON .........</p><p>Hugs & Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 191371, member: 4964"] Janet, I wish I had read your post and thought to myself that I knew exactly what to say to you. Maybe i have something that can help you understand you are not alone. Our children seem to have an innate ability to hyperfocus on the ONE thing that will trigger a hurtful memory, feeling and then stand back like a fire starter and get their fire. THEN they sit back and roast us like marshmallows. I wouldn't know that unless I lived with one. One that seems to, on occasion teeter between being kind and horribly mean. Personally - over the years you have told us about your Mom, and her mental illness and her treatment of you. I feel sorry that I can't explain to Dude any better than I can you, that his Father's mental illness doesn't make him LIKE him in any way. I think you know this, even without getting ripped about it. What I DO KNOW is that in the last week, month, 18 years.....You've had an incredible amount on your plate with your own kids - let alone what you survived and overcame with your childhood. You're a good person- I like you, and while I "wish" that that would be enough for you to go "Oh okay Star, Gosh yes I see, you are right I am not a bad Mom, silly me for thinking and letting Cory (of all people) to get the best of me." I know what you are going through. So kid - I'm another oar in the boat. Which; techincally means now you won't row in circles - we'll just keep going and see where we get. ROWING ON ......... Hugs & Love Star [/QUOTE]
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