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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 191656" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>Janet, I am so very sorry he's putting you through this. Honey, you are NOT your mother! You didn't ask for the genetic makeup you inherited but you busted your hiney to turn yourself into everything she wasn't ... to become the kind of good mother that you yourself deserved and didn't get! I admire you so much for this and for all you've accomplished! It's like winning the race even though you had to start it 50 feet behind everybody else at the starting line! You should be so proud of yourself and not let one butt-headed, foul-mouthed, selfish, ungrateful "child" make you doubt yourself! I don't think anyone has the power to hurt us more than our children do! And when they really want to go for blood, they know exactly where to aim! I think it hurts so much more coming from them because most of our children will never really know the sacrifices we made for them, the things we denied ourselves of so they would be provided for, the hours we spent worrying about them and praying for them, how our worlds revolved around them.</p><p> </p><p>I hate to say this but the more I hear about Cory, the more he sounds so much like my ex-husband! When all is said and done, nothing really matters except what HE wants. Other people are important to him only for what they can do for him or what he can get out of them. And such a sense of entitlement! If somebody else has something and he doesn't - not fair! That's why my ex probably owes money to a hundred different people and will never pay it back! And I've seen that "deflecting" trick puilled so many times - if you get caught in something you immediately do whatever it takes to deflect the blame off of yourself - you scream and cuss and go into a fury and throw up such a smoke screen that the original incident gets lost in the shuffle and you don't have to answer for it! Make enough of a scene and maybe they'll be afraid to confront you again and you can just do whatever you damn well want to and nobody will say anything! Been there, done that! </p><p> </p><p>When my kids were younger I used to cringe thinking about the "genetics" they may have inherited from their father, especially my son. He could have easily gone either way. But happily, he is <em>nothing </em>like his father - part of it is just that he has an entirely different temperament than his father and partly because he was (and is!) so appalled by his father's behavior that he has always been determined to be his polar opposite! And he is! And Janet, that's is probably the same way that you overcame the cards that you were dealt and became the wonderful caring mother and grandma that you are today!</p><p> </p><p>I still treasure a Mother's Day card that my son gave me years ago. I have it on my bulletin board at work so I can see it every day. On the front is a little cartoon guy and it says, "Mom, all in all I think I turned out pretty good!" Inside it says, " ... especially considering that I had 50&#37; of Dad's genes to contend with!" Only he and I know that it's NOT a joke!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 191656, member: 1883"] Janet, I am so very sorry he's putting you through this. Honey, you are NOT your mother! You didn't ask for the genetic makeup you inherited but you busted your hiney to turn yourself into everything she wasn't ... to become the kind of good mother that you yourself deserved and didn't get! I admire you so much for this and for all you've accomplished! It's like winning the race even though you had to start it 50 feet behind everybody else at the starting line! You should be so proud of yourself and not let one butt-headed, foul-mouthed, selfish, ungrateful "child" make you doubt yourself! I don't think anyone has the power to hurt us more than our children do! And when they really want to go for blood, they know exactly where to aim! I think it hurts so much more coming from them because most of our children will never really know the sacrifices we made for them, the things we denied ourselves of so they would be provided for, the hours we spent worrying about them and praying for them, how our worlds revolved around them. I hate to say this but the more I hear about Cory, the more he sounds so much like my ex-husband! When all is said and done, nothing really matters except what HE wants. Other people are important to him only for what they can do for him or what he can get out of them. And such a sense of entitlement! If somebody else has something and he doesn't - not fair! That's why my ex probably owes money to a hundred different people and will never pay it back! And I've seen that "deflecting" trick puilled so many times - if you get caught in something you immediately do whatever it takes to deflect the blame off of yourself - you scream and cuss and go into a fury and throw up such a smoke screen that the original incident gets lost in the shuffle and you don't have to answer for it! Make enough of a scene and maybe they'll be afraid to confront you again and you can just do whatever you damn well want to and nobody will say anything! Been there, done that! When my kids were younger I used to cringe thinking about the "genetics" they may have inherited from their father, especially my son. He could have easily gone either way. But happily, he is [I]nothing [/I]like his father - part of it is just that he has an entirely different temperament than his father and partly because he was (and is!) so appalled by his father's behavior that he has always been determined to be his polar opposite! And he is! And Janet, that's is probably the same way that you overcame the cards that you were dealt and became the wonderful caring mother and grandma that you are today! I still treasure a Mother's Day card that my son gave me years ago. I have it on my bulletin board at work so I can see it every day. On the front is a little cartoon guy and it says, "Mom, all in all I think I turned out pretty good!" Inside it says, " ... especially considering that I had 50% of Dad's genes to contend with!" Only he and I know that it's NOT a joke! [/QUOTE]
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