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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 377819" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Welcome... Hugs.</p><p> </p><p>My husband and I are sometimes on the same page, sometimes not. But looking at it - he absolutely blew and told her point blank if she did not stop with the lies he'd see her in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) faster than she could blink. And both she and I could tell he was 100% serious. He waffles a lot, though. And I call him on it now.</p><p> </p><p>The fact is - your wife is in danger if he is physically violent. Don't cover for him with the PO. If your wife wants to, point out that difficult child will <em>never</em> - and I mean <strong>never</strong> - get the picture or get help if the enabling continues.</p><p> </p><p>Lock up easy child's stuff. Offsite is a great idea - some people cannot afford it, but deadbolts are another option. Not 100%, but better than nothing.</p><p> </p><p><em>He</em>'s embarrassed? How about having to sit outside in your pajamas and wait on a CO-worker? OMG. Does this truly not bother your wife? Does she not realize this is abuse, pure and simple?</p><p> </p><p>My husband doesn't read the site, but has been willing to try <em>some</em> of the things I find here. He's really good at locking the bedroom door now - way better than before. I think Onyxx stealing <strong>his</strong> stuff was the last straw there.</p><p> </p><p>You may want to start by telling your wife that YOU won't be abused anymore, and YOU won't cover for difficult child anymore. Then follow through. She may get very angry with you. But... You cannot live like this. You just can't.</p><p> </p><p>More hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 377819, member: 6705"] Welcome... Hugs. My husband and I are sometimes on the same page, sometimes not. But looking at it - he absolutely blew and told her point blank if she did not stop with the lies he'd see her in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) faster than she could blink. And both she and I could tell he was 100% serious. He waffles a lot, though. And I call him on it now. The fact is - your wife is in danger if he is physically violent. Don't cover for him with the PO. If your wife wants to, point out that difficult child will [I]never[/I] - and I mean [B]never[/B] - get the picture or get help if the enabling continues. Lock up easy child's stuff. Offsite is a great idea - some people cannot afford it, but deadbolts are another option. Not 100%, but better than nothing. [I]He[/I]'s embarrassed? How about having to sit outside in your pajamas and wait on a CO-worker? OMG. Does this truly not bother your wife? Does she not realize this is abuse, pure and simple? My husband doesn't read the site, but has been willing to try [I]some[/I] of the things I find here. He's really good at locking the bedroom door now - way better than before. I think Onyxx stealing [B]his[/B] stuff was the last straw there. You may want to start by telling your wife that YOU won't be abused anymore, and YOU won't cover for difficult child anymore. Then follow through. She may get very angry with you. But... You cannot live like this. You just can't. More hugs! [/QUOTE]
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