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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 385761" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is rare for a child to tell their parent they are doing anything other than pot. Usually by the time they are willing to openly admit pot use they are using something else. My mother called me when she had taken my gfgbro to rehab a few years ago. She asked if I had known of anything gfgbro had used other than alcohol and occasionally pot. Gfgbro blacked out a LOT from the alcohol. We knew a lot of the same people and he hung around the crowd I had worked with, so we were at the same parties. He would use ANYTHING once he was drunk. He rarely remembered it, but I saw him smoke/snort almost everything from acid to cocaine and crack. Meth wasn't used in our group to my knowledge (this was about 17-19 yrs ago as I dropped the crowd after I got married for the most part. I had a husband and child and other priorities and never really fit in because I didn't use pot or anything else. Being around pot put me to sleep almost instantly so I avoided it.</p><p> </p><p>My mom still doesn't believe he did anything but alcohol more than 1-2 times. Fact is I saw him use the other stuff almost every weekend for several years. And often during the week. He "forgets" all of it, and all the awful stuff he did while drunk, from abusing me to riding a bike nekkid down the major road my parents live on. He usually dropped his clothes about the fourth shot of booze. REALLY embarrassin, but my parents truly believe he has forgotten. I don't. </p><p> </p><p>Your wife is just going to make your son worse. There is little you can do, just like there is little I could do to get my parents to realize what my gfgbro had done, and just like I will never be able to get my gfgbro to "remember" what al he did. If he allowed himself to remember he would likely kill himself because he did such terrible awful monstrous things. </p><p> </p><p>I am sorry that things are so awful. If possible you should cut all funds from him, even if it means putting your wife on an allowance and getting a separate checking account that is only in your name so that she cannot give your difficult child any $$. It won't be easy.</p><p> </p><p>PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE attend as many alanon meetings as you can. This is a FAMILY disease and every family member NEEDS support and help. Including YOU. Alanon or narcanon can be that help.</p><p> </p><p>7 meetings in 7 days. I challenge you to attend 7 alanon meetings in 7 days. Lunchtime ones, evening ones, weekend ones. You don't have to say anything if you don't want to. You will be amazed at the love, acceptance and support you find there.</p><p> </p><p>Many hugs, One Day At A Time (ODAAT)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 385761, member: 1233"] It is rare for a child to tell their parent they are doing anything other than pot. Usually by the time they are willing to openly admit pot use they are using something else. My mother called me when she had taken my gfgbro to rehab a few years ago. She asked if I had known of anything gfgbro had used other than alcohol and occasionally pot. Gfgbro blacked out a LOT from the alcohol. We knew a lot of the same people and he hung around the crowd I had worked with, so we were at the same parties. He would use ANYTHING once he was drunk. He rarely remembered it, but I saw him smoke/snort almost everything from acid to cocaine and crack. Meth wasn't used in our group to my knowledge (this was about 17-19 yrs ago as I dropped the crowd after I got married for the most part. I had a husband and child and other priorities and never really fit in because I didn't use pot or anything else. Being around pot put me to sleep almost instantly so I avoided it. My mom still doesn't believe he did anything but alcohol more than 1-2 times. Fact is I saw him use the other stuff almost every weekend for several years. And often during the week. He "forgets" all of it, and all the awful stuff he did while drunk, from abusing me to riding a bike nekkid down the major road my parents live on. He usually dropped his clothes about the fourth shot of booze. REALLY embarrassin, but my parents truly believe he has forgotten. I don't. Your wife is just going to make your son worse. There is little you can do, just like there is little I could do to get my parents to realize what my gfgbro had done, and just like I will never be able to get my gfgbro to "remember" what al he did. If he allowed himself to remember he would likely kill himself because he did such terrible awful monstrous things. I am sorry that things are so awful. If possible you should cut all funds from him, even if it means putting your wife on an allowance and getting a separate checking account that is only in your name so that she cannot give your difficult child any $$. It won't be easy. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE attend as many alanon meetings as you can. This is a FAMILY disease and every family member NEEDS support and help. Including YOU. Alanon or narcanon can be that help. 7 meetings in 7 days. I challenge you to attend 7 alanon meetings in 7 days. Lunchtime ones, evening ones, weekend ones. You don't have to say anything if you don't want to. You will be amazed at the love, acceptance and support you find there. Many hugs, One Day At A Time (ODAAT) [/QUOTE]
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