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<blockquote data-quote="Lucedaleblessed" data-source="post: 392653" data-attributes="member: 6747"><p>I find that it an awful situation you are in.</p><p></p><p>We challenged our girl and said to her that if she didn't change her behavior she would find herself in a wilderness program very fast and they are tough. She said that she didn't care and she was so tough etc. Then we took her to a weekend camp. It did set us back some 500 dollars. It was tough. It was cold and they marched around in a summer camp environment, got wet and cold. She still makes some noise in our family but we are talking about 5-10 percent of the previous behavior.</p><p></p><p>The problem with the juvie and most Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in my opinion is that they get use to live like that. They adjust to the enviroment and while there is progress inside the program, they adjust back once they are out. I believe that we as parents must draw a line and then show them there is other options which we are prepared to choose because we love them. And it has to be more than words. They are used to our warnings, our lecturing. They stop believing in us if we don't do what we threaten them with.</p><p></p><p>We gave our daughter a kind of shock probation and then it is up to her to show us that she wants to live at home. I hope that she got the message because I cannot see how our family should be able to find $15K. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) which was located in our town continues to send me letters about their new boarding school in Costa Rica which should cost $500 per month, but I remember a scandal in Costa Rica 7 years back where they had to fly teenagers out, so it will never happen. I find that the system has failed parents like us who want parent instead of closing our eyes.</p><p></p><p>Download some material about wilderness camps and boarding schools. Put it where he will find it by accident. It should make his mind work a little.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lucedaleblessed, post: 392653, member: 6747"] I find that it an awful situation you are in. We challenged our girl and said to her that if she didn't change her behavior she would find herself in a wilderness program very fast and they are tough. She said that she didn't care and she was so tough etc. Then we took her to a weekend camp. It did set us back some 500 dollars. It was tough. It was cold and they marched around in a summer camp environment, got wet and cold. She still makes some noise in our family but we are talking about 5-10 percent of the previous behavior. The problem with the juvie and most Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in my opinion is that they get use to live like that. They adjust to the enviroment and while there is progress inside the program, they adjust back once they are out. I believe that we as parents must draw a line and then show them there is other options which we are prepared to choose because we love them. And it has to be more than words. They are used to our warnings, our lecturing. They stop believing in us if we don't do what we threaten them with. We gave our daughter a kind of shock probation and then it is up to her to show us that she wants to live at home. I hope that she got the message because I cannot see how our family should be able to find $15K. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) which was located in our town continues to send me letters about their new boarding school in Costa Rica which should cost $500 per month, but I remember a scandal in Costa Rica 7 years back where they had to fly teenagers out, so it will never happen. I find that the system has failed parents like us who want parent instead of closing our eyes. Download some material about wilderness camps and boarding schools. Put it where he will find it by accident. It should make his mind work a little. [/QUOTE]
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