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Enough IS Enough..Kicking Doors,Screaming Bloody Murder...Im just no good..
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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 504894" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>{{hugs}} - today isn't the best of days... and I know what it's like when those days are "most days".</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Our favorite therapist explained it to us this way...</p><p>For perfectly normal, healthy kids with "no issues", the biggest battles with parents are:</p><p>- bedtime</p><p>- keeping room clean</p><p>- homework, music practice</p><p>- pet care</p><p>- money</p><p></p><p>Hmmm... I had to learn to pick my battles, and one of the first to go was their rooms. We force them to "shovel out" a couple times a year. They don't tend to hoard food etc. (used to be a problem), so they aren't attracting rodents and such.</p><p></p><p>Have you seen the book The Explosive Child yet? It presents a different perspective on these kids of ours... along with a shift in belief system: most people believe "kids do well if they want to". Greene (the author) believes "kids do well <em>if they can</em>". See the difference?</p><p></p><p>If the kids are not doing what needs to be done, we can either assume it is a problem of behavior and/or attitude, OR we can assume there is some cause. How you approach the problem is considerably different, depending on the assumptions made.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 504894, member: 11791"] {{hugs}} - today isn't the best of days... and I know what it's like when those days are "most days". Our favorite therapist explained it to us this way... For perfectly normal, healthy kids with "no issues", the biggest battles with parents are: - bedtime - keeping room clean - homework, music practice - pet care - money Hmmm... I had to learn to pick my battles, and one of the first to go was their rooms. We force them to "shovel out" a couple times a year. They don't tend to hoard food etc. (used to be a problem), so they aren't attracting rodents and such. Have you seen the book The Explosive Child yet? It presents a different perspective on these kids of ours... along with a shift in belief system: most people believe "kids do well if they want to". Greene (the author) believes "kids do well [I]if they can[/I]". See the difference? If the kids are not doing what needs to be done, we can either assume it is a problem of behavior and/or attitude, OR we can assume there is some cause. How you approach the problem is considerably different, depending on the assumptions made. [/QUOTE]
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