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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 504899" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>No, I would not hold him unless he becomes a danger. Just MHO, too emotional and difficult. I would monitor of course.</p><p></p><p>Listen, we all can see things in others that are harder to see in ourselves and I value your input. Please do not do limit your comments for that reason, OK?</p><p></p><p>It is SOOO hard when your child is going thru times like that. Where are you in the diagnosis process, I forgot...sorry.... Are you banging your head against walls trying to find support for him? </p><p></p><p>All kids are different and for some this would not work at all.... if you think this might work, you can......., and believe me I, for one know, this is really really hard to do, esp when they have been so obnoxious..... reward the SECOND he shows any calm or step on the right direction....you want to read a story with me? (or whatever he likes and it seems so wrong to reward that prior behavior but you make it sure that you are rewarding that he turned it around) Q can be in the height of a melt down and I can say something when he starts to calm like should we start over and he will usually say no b**** but in a few seconds will say yes that is what he wants to do... SOO hard to let that roll off my back and I do not always succeed for sure.</p><p></p><p>You are not a lousy parent. Clearly not. You have a very challenging situation overall. You need support and it is not going to be through sticker charts or rewards. </p><p></p><p>Do you think he would respond to a task board... listing every piece of clothing, the order you do the morning routines etc?? Not as a point system, just as an organizational tool....??? I know you have tried everything but that is one that did work for me.. It was fun for him to check off the tasks as he did them. </p><p></p><p>HUGS and cyber xanax! Keep venting, and say to yourself I AM an AWESOME mom... we all need help and support. Does not make us bad moms.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 504899, member: 12886"] No, I would not hold him unless he becomes a danger. Just MHO, too emotional and difficult. I would monitor of course. Listen, we all can see things in others that are harder to see in ourselves and I value your input. Please do not do limit your comments for that reason, OK? It is SOOO hard when your child is going thru times like that. Where are you in the diagnosis process, I forgot...sorry.... Are you banging your head against walls trying to find support for him? All kids are different and for some this would not work at all.... if you think this might work, you can......., and believe me I, for one know, this is really really hard to do, esp when they have been so obnoxious..... reward the SECOND he shows any calm or step on the right direction....you want to read a story with me? (or whatever he likes and it seems so wrong to reward that prior behavior but you make it sure that you are rewarding that he turned it around) Q can be in the height of a melt down and I can say something when he starts to calm like should we start over and he will usually say no b**** but in a few seconds will say yes that is what he wants to do... SOO hard to let that roll off my back and I do not always succeed for sure. You are not a lousy parent. Clearly not. You have a very challenging situation overall. You need support and it is not going to be through sticker charts or rewards. Do you think he would respond to a task board... listing every piece of clothing, the order you do the morning routines etc?? Not as a point system, just as an organizational tool....??? I know you have tried everything but that is one that did work for me.. It was fun for him to check off the tasks as he did them. HUGS and cyber xanax! Keep venting, and say to yourself I AM an AWESOME mom... we all need help and support. Does not make us bad moms. [/QUOTE]
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