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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 384475" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p><em>kinda know in my own mind changes i'd like to see in my family. easy child adhering to counseling to work out her issues with-difficult child and the jealousy i think she's felt for years. a few other things my mind is still working on.</em></p><p></p><p>Oh, yeah. Influence, quite a bit. But you've got to have a kid who is susceptible to that sort of thing to begin with. My easy child has been through so much with-difficult child, but her response has been 1) to move out to a friend's house for 6 mo's, and 2) major in art and psychiatric in college.</p><p>See the diff?</p><p> </p><p>In our lives, I am still taking difficult child to therapy. I am doing what is right, regardless of difficult child's reaction. For example, he loves to have us bring in McD's for dinner. Every. Single. Night. Not going to happen. Last night I was out with-friends and he called me for a burger. At a fast food place. I told him I'd bring him one from the restaurant where I was sitting. It was Fri night, spec occasion in that it was a weekend, etc. He said it had to be the restaurant he chose or he wouldn't eat it. Of course, I bought one from the place I was eating. Considered wrapping it in a Burger King bag but knew he'd figure it out. </p><p>Brought it home, he said a barely audible "Thank you" b4 he started in on how it wasn't McD, wasn't Burger King, not what he wanted, I lied, etc. I just walked away.</p><p>Not going to get into it. If he's hungry, he'll eat it. (by the way, husband was home and why didn't he make dinner for difficult child? That's one change I'd like to see. How to make it work ... )</p><p> </p><p>One thing we've had problems with-is avoidance. difficult child makes such a huge stink about everything, we give in. Not so much any more, but it created a very bad precedent and bad pattern. We are working to erase that.</p><p> </p><p>Lots more but that's what's on my mind right now. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 384475, member: 3419"] [I]kinda know in my own mind changes i'd like to see in my family. easy child adhering to counseling to work out her issues with-difficult child and the jealousy i think she's felt for years. a few other things my mind is still working on.[/I] Oh, yeah. Influence, quite a bit. But you've got to have a kid who is susceptible to that sort of thing to begin with. My easy child has been through so much with-difficult child, but her response has been 1) to move out to a friend's house for 6 mo's, and 2) major in art and psychiatric in college. See the diff? In our lives, I am still taking difficult child to therapy. I am doing what is right, regardless of difficult child's reaction. For example, he loves to have us bring in McD's for dinner. Every. Single. Night. Not going to happen. Last night I was out with-friends and he called me for a burger. At a fast food place. I told him I'd bring him one from the restaurant where I was sitting. It was Fri night, spec occasion in that it was a weekend, etc. He said it had to be the restaurant he chose or he wouldn't eat it. Of course, I bought one from the place I was eating. Considered wrapping it in a Burger King bag but knew he'd figure it out. Brought it home, he said a barely audible "Thank you" b4 he started in on how it wasn't McD, wasn't Burger King, not what he wanted, I lied, etc. I just walked away. Not going to get into it. If he's hungry, he'll eat it. (by the way, husband was home and why didn't he make dinner for difficult child? That's one change I'd like to see. How to make it work ... ) One thing we've had problems with-is avoidance. difficult child makes such a huge stink about everything, we give in. Not so much any more, but it created a very bad precedent and bad pattern. We are working to erase that. Lots more but that's what's on my mind right now. :) [/QUOTE]
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