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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 577917" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>The domestic abuse cycle within your granddaughter's mother's family is huge. It is an extremely difficult cycle to break. Not to be a naysayer but if your granddaughter grows up in that family, she herself will find someone to abuse her unless she gets help. I was just at a Dr. appointment the other day and the nurse asked me if I was in a safe relationship. I am however I told her I thought it was wonderful that they ask that now. She told me that statistics show that it takes 12 inquires like that for the victim of abuse to acknowledge it, IF it is acknowledged at all. Your granddaughter's mom is under an enormous disadvantage to get help and the cycle then, will unfortunately continue. </p><p></p><p>I am not advocating you get guardianship for your granddaughter, the other side of the picture is you can learn to detach from the situation. For some, that is the right decision to make. There is no right or wrong, only what you are willing to do. By virtue of my love and connection with my granddaughter, there was no other choice for me, I would have done whatever it took to get her safe. </p><p></p><p>As I mentioned, once I began that journey, I sought out a lot of help. The first call I made was to CPS, which was so difficult because it was my own daughter I was reporting. In hindsight, without all the emoting and fear, I see that my efforts were met with much support. I found people within the system who gave me the steps to take. </p><p></p><p>Good luck to you SH, your granddaughter is fortunate to have you in her corner. (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 577917, member: 13542"] The domestic abuse cycle within your granddaughter's mother's family is huge. It is an extremely difficult cycle to break. Not to be a naysayer but if your granddaughter grows up in that family, she herself will find someone to abuse her unless she gets help. I was just at a Dr. appointment the other day and the nurse asked me if I was in a safe relationship. I am however I told her I thought it was wonderful that they ask that now. She told me that statistics show that it takes 12 inquires like that for the victim of abuse to acknowledge it, IF it is acknowledged at all. Your granddaughter's mom is under an enormous disadvantage to get help and the cycle then, will unfortunately continue. I am not advocating you get guardianship for your granddaughter, the other side of the picture is you can learn to detach from the situation. For some, that is the right decision to make. There is no right or wrong, only what you are willing to do. By virtue of my love and connection with my granddaughter, there was no other choice for me, I would have done whatever it took to get her safe. As I mentioned, once I began that journey, I sought out a lot of help. The first call I made was to CPS, which was so difficult because it was my own daughter I was reporting. In hindsight, without all the emoting and fear, I see that my efforts were met with much support. I found people within the system who gave me the steps to take. Good luck to you SH, your granddaughter is fortunate to have you in her corner. (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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