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<blockquote data-quote="Siobhan Harper" data-source="post: 578093" data-attributes="member: 15902"><p>An update: difficult child's SO had asked my husband to pick her up from work last night. He went (I was planning to accompany but got a migraine and couldn't), only to discover after some waiting that she wasn't there! He drove to their apartment, where he saw difficult child's car; apparently, he came back after walking out this weekend. Husband saw lights in their apartment window and called from the parking lot, but they didn't answer, so he came home. Whole deal took about two hours (after dark and in single digit temperatures, I might add). No phone call from the SO, definitely no contact from difficult child, so we are left to assume the cycle of dysfunction continues.</p><p></p><p>In my mind, I had already started thinking of ways to gently ease into SO's life, since she reached out to husband. Had already gotten to the place of eventual legal guardianship of granddaughter, keeping SO in her life but helping her to set and achieve some goals she once talked about, like nursing school. Even an open adoption...anything that would make us legally and financially responsible for this innocent baby, so that she could have a shot at a normal life. Guardianship or open adoption could leave the door open to difficult child and SO, so they wouldn't feel their baby was "stolen." But I surely put the cart way before the horse. I should know better. The let-down is huge, but I also have to admit, a certain amount of relief came with it. So many conflicting emotions.</p><p></p><p>Still thinking I will explore grandparents' rights here and legal guardianship options, so I'll at least have the knowledge if and when I need/can use it. So thankful for those suggestions. Right now, I just tired, the kind of tired you feel when the adrenaline from a crisis has suddenly disappeared and you know you aren't going to be able to do anything. Bet I'm not the only one here to know that feeling!</p><p></p><p>Anyway, many thanks to all for support and suggestions. Just finding this support site makes this most recent installment of our life's soap opera worth it.</p><p></p><p>Siobhan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Siobhan Harper, post: 578093, member: 15902"] An update: difficult child's SO had asked my husband to pick her up from work last night. He went (I was planning to accompany but got a migraine and couldn't), only to discover after some waiting that she wasn't there! He drove to their apartment, where he saw difficult child's car; apparently, he came back after walking out this weekend. Husband saw lights in their apartment window and called from the parking lot, but they didn't answer, so he came home. Whole deal took about two hours (after dark and in single digit temperatures, I might add). No phone call from the SO, definitely no contact from difficult child, so we are left to assume the cycle of dysfunction continues. In my mind, I had already started thinking of ways to gently ease into SO's life, since she reached out to husband. Had already gotten to the place of eventual legal guardianship of granddaughter, keeping SO in her life but helping her to set and achieve some goals she once talked about, like nursing school. Even an open adoption...anything that would make us legally and financially responsible for this innocent baby, so that she could have a shot at a normal life. Guardianship or open adoption could leave the door open to difficult child and SO, so they wouldn't feel their baby was "stolen." But I surely put the cart way before the horse. I should know better. The let-down is huge, but I also have to admit, a certain amount of relief came with it. So many conflicting emotions. Still thinking I will explore grandparents' rights here and legal guardianship options, so I'll at least have the knowledge if and when I need/can use it. So thankful for those suggestions. Right now, I just tired, the kind of tired you feel when the adrenaline from a crisis has suddenly disappeared and you know you aren't going to be able to do anything. Bet I'm not the only one here to know that feeling! Anyway, many thanks to all for support and suggestions. Just finding this support site makes this most recent installment of our life's soap opera worth it. Siobhan [/QUOTE]
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