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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 578407" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Oh Siobhan, I so empathize with you, my heart goes out to you with all your earnest inquiries and feelings battling each other within you..........I do understand every word you said and have lived in your shoes. I am so very, very sorry you are going through all of this. With your health issues, and husband's health issues, you certainly don't deserve all of this stress and pain. </p><p></p><p>There are no easy answers. I wish I could say to you, yes detach, give up, live your life free of all of this................OR............yes, go full force ahead, battle the forces, no matter what, save your granddaughter..............but sadly, I can't. Those choices are yours to make after much soul searching and internal wars, you will ultimately land somewhere that feels right to you. No one here is in your shoes, we can offer you solace, support and options from our perspective, but only you can make this decision for you and your husband. </p><p></p><p>You sound like a thoughtful, intelligent, insightful, perceptive, bright woman with a keen eye for the truth and a good sense of humor, I have every confidence that you will make a well thought out decision. That is not to say, you won't sprout some new grey hairs and lose some sleep along the way. It is a very difficult choice to have to make. </p><p></p><p>You are fortunate, as I have been, to have a good therapist on your side, someone whom you can throw all of this at and sort through it. Make lists of the pros and cons. Whatever your choice, you have to live with it. My story was a little different because I already had a very close relationship with my little granddaughter, we were comrades. You in essence hardly know your granddaughter at this point. That doesn't remove the ache in your heart to connect with her, I understand that. </p><p></p><p>You have a little time now, between dramas, to really look in your heart, talk to husband, talk to your therapist and meditate on what is the best path for you to take. Remember that there is no right or wrong, only what you are willing to do and can do and deep in your heart, want to do. Sometimes we need to step aside and allow someone to go through whatever life their destiny holds for them, no matter how difficult that is. And, conversely, sometimes we have to step in and provide a life for someone, that is OUR destiny.</p><p></p><p>I feel for you and this hard decision. If you would like to PM me and discuss this personally in more depth, I am willing to be a committed listener, as I have some experience in this domain. If not, that's perfectly okay too. Certainly keep posting, it does help so much. I continue my wish for you to find peace, in whatever path you choose. I think once you make a choice, you will find some solace. (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 578407, member: 13542"] Oh Siobhan, I so empathize with you, my heart goes out to you with all your earnest inquiries and feelings battling each other within you..........I do understand every word you said and have lived in your shoes. I am so very, very sorry you are going through all of this. With your health issues, and husband's health issues, you certainly don't deserve all of this stress and pain. There are no easy answers. I wish I could say to you, yes detach, give up, live your life free of all of this................OR............yes, go full force ahead, battle the forces, no matter what, save your granddaughter..............but sadly, I can't. Those choices are yours to make after much soul searching and internal wars, you will ultimately land somewhere that feels right to you. No one here is in your shoes, we can offer you solace, support and options from our perspective, but only you can make this decision for you and your husband. You sound like a thoughtful, intelligent, insightful, perceptive, bright woman with a keen eye for the truth and a good sense of humor, I have every confidence that you will make a well thought out decision. That is not to say, you won't sprout some new grey hairs and lose some sleep along the way. It is a very difficult choice to have to make. You are fortunate, as I have been, to have a good therapist on your side, someone whom you can throw all of this at and sort through it. Make lists of the pros and cons. Whatever your choice, you have to live with it. My story was a little different because I already had a very close relationship with my little granddaughter, we were comrades. You in essence hardly know your granddaughter at this point. That doesn't remove the ache in your heart to connect with her, I understand that. You have a little time now, between dramas, to really look in your heart, talk to husband, talk to your therapist and meditate on what is the best path for you to take. Remember that there is no right or wrong, only what you are willing to do and can do and deep in your heart, want to do. Sometimes we need to step aside and allow someone to go through whatever life their destiny holds for them, no matter how difficult that is. And, conversely, sometimes we have to step in and provide a life for someone, that is OUR destiny. I feel for you and this hard decision. If you would like to PM me and discuss this personally in more depth, I am willing to be a committed listener, as I have some experience in this domain. If not, that's perfectly okay too. Certainly keep posting, it does help so much. I continue my wish for you to find peace, in whatever path you choose. I think once you make a choice, you will find some solace. (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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