OK. This is my first time to these boards and I don't know how to get all of my information on the bottom of post, nor do I understand all of the initials yet, but here is my story. My son in 11 years old. He is not mine biologically, he is my husband's. His bio mom gave him to us when he was three and we have not heard from her since. He has been diagnosed with AD/HD and after reading the symptoms, I am convinced he has Oppositional Defiance Disorder. He is not currently on medications due to the fact that we don't have insurance and cannot afford the medications on our own.
I really just wanted to say that I completely understand the idea of detaching. My son is currently failing the 5th grade. Since he knows he will probably be held back, he is no longer doing anything in school. He called today to ask if he could stay after school for some track tryout and I told him no. Then he proceeded to "miss" his bus home because he couldn't zip up his back pack. This is just one of many, many examples. I am soo tired of this. Since he doesn't seem to care about being punished, do you guys have any suggestions? He is tearing my husband and I apart. Not to mention, we also have a 4 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. They are wonderful. Just normal behaviour issues, nothing special. Please help. I am at the point where after 9 years of this, I can somewhat understand (although not condone) why his bio mom took off. I can't deal with this for another 6 years. Please help!
Thanks for any advice,
Stephanie
