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Everywhere I look, I see relapses; how not to worry too much?
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 549105" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>SuZir, I'm sorry you're worrying so much about your difficult child's possible relapse. I understand your worry. I recall you mentioning in another post that you have been a "crisis manager" taking care of difficult child's since you were very young. We share that job description and I have also been a raging worrier often about things that never came to pass. As you know, worry is based in fear, and fear keeps our bodies stuck in a stress mode which is debilitating. It's worth it to find ways to stop the relentless worry because it robs us of the present moment and keeps us stuck in a crisis mode. I believe you mentioned that you presently have time on your hands too, which can produce more time to find more to worry about. </p><p></p><p>I've done a lot in the last 20 years to stop that pattern in myself because I became aware of just how unproductive and in fact, really bad for my health worrying actually was. It seems that it's become a way of life for you now, given all the difficult child's. Perhaps you could utilize your free time to research ways to help you stop worrying. Since we can't control others, you can't control what your difficult child does, it makes more sense to change our reactions to the stress in our lives. What has worked very well for me is therapy, in particular for anxiety issues, learning Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which shifts your thinking; acupuncture (great stress reliever!), meditation, lots of exercise, vitamins, changing my diet to avoid sugar, alcohol, gluten, dairy, etc., writing, reading about how others have worked through their fears, massage, reflexology and quite a few different healing methods I came across in my travels. For me, it's been worth it to change that pattern in myself. </p><p></p><p>It hurts to worry so much, I hope you can find ways to minimize that. My heart goes out to you, I know how you feel. Sending gentle hugs your way.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 549105, member: 13542"] SuZir, I'm sorry you're worrying so much about your difficult child's possible relapse. I understand your worry. I recall you mentioning in another post that you have been a "crisis manager" taking care of difficult child's since you were very young. We share that job description and I have also been a raging worrier often about things that never came to pass. As you know, worry is based in fear, and fear keeps our bodies stuck in a stress mode which is debilitating. It's worth it to find ways to stop the relentless worry because it robs us of the present moment and keeps us stuck in a crisis mode. I believe you mentioned that you presently have time on your hands too, which can produce more time to find more to worry about. I've done a lot in the last 20 years to stop that pattern in myself because I became aware of just how unproductive and in fact, really bad for my health worrying actually was. It seems that it's become a way of life for you now, given all the difficult child's. Perhaps you could utilize your free time to research ways to help you stop worrying. Since we can't control others, you can't control what your difficult child does, it makes more sense to change our reactions to the stress in our lives. What has worked very well for me is therapy, in particular for anxiety issues, learning Cognitive Behavioral Therapy which shifts your thinking; acupuncture (great stress reliever!), meditation, lots of exercise, vitamins, changing my diet to avoid sugar, alcohol, gluten, dairy, etc., writing, reading about how others have worked through their fears, massage, reflexology and quite a few different healing methods I came across in my travels. For me, it's been worth it to change that pattern in myself. It hurts to worry so much, I hope you can find ways to minimize that. My heart goes out to you, I know how you feel. Sending gentle hugs your way....... [/QUOTE]
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