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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 634865" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Our difficult children are so very good at finding our mommy spots and saying the magic word that makes us think they might be "getting" it this time. For us, "work" was what we wanted to hear, and he knew that. My difficult child was looking for a job after 3 months in a rehab facility and came up with every imaginable reason why he could only do it at the house. When he finally hit on something I hadn't anticipated and I reluctantly agreed to let him stop at the house just for a few minutes on his way to an interview, he showed up filthy, stinking of cigarette smoke and body odor and obviously not with any intention of securing a job. And ironically causing me to MISS work to deal with the whole guilt trip and high drama when he didn't get his way. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how to see them as they are now, rather than as they were before things went badly or as we want them to be. I definitely have my moments when helping him seems like the right thing to do (and isn't). I keep a list called "Thinking of Getting Involved? Read This First!" that has some of difficult child's high points and low points. If nothing else it at least cuts down on repeating the SAME mistake over and over.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 634865, member: 17720"] Our difficult children are so very good at finding our mommy spots and saying the magic word that makes us think they might be "getting" it this time. For us, "work" was what we wanted to hear, and he knew that. My difficult child was looking for a job after 3 months in a rehab facility and came up with every imaginable reason why he could only do it at the house. When he finally hit on something I hadn't anticipated and I reluctantly agreed to let him stop at the house just for a few minutes on his way to an interview, he showed up filthy, stinking of cigarette smoke and body odor and obviously not with any intention of securing a job. And ironically causing me to MISS work to deal with the whole guilt trip and high drama when he didn't get his way. I don't know how to see them as they are now, rather than as they were before things went badly or as we want them to be. I definitely have my moments when helping him seems like the right thing to do (and isn't). I keep a list called "Thinking of Getting Involved? Read This First!" that has some of difficult child's high points and low points. If nothing else it at least cuts down on repeating the SAME mistake over and over. [/QUOTE]
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