My difficult child (7yr/1st grade) and his friend from school really want to do a playdate and have asked me about it a few times. I have emailed and spoken with-the friend's Dad twice, and he says we should do it and he'll talk to the mom. But then nothing. I have to assume this is because they've seen my difficult child playing a few times (not at school but at parties, etc) and being too rough/aggressive. I also heard today that this week he's been rough with-the kids at recess and the teacher believes that the kids mentioned this to their parents (I don't know which ones). The teacher was very nice - said he hasn't had this behavior so far this school year and that they'd work on it, etc. But my question is, what do I say to my difficult child when he asks about the playdate? So far, all I've said is that I've done all I can and just haven't heard from his friend's parents, and he hasn't brought it up for a few days. At what age do you tell the child his behavior may be effecting his playdates? (Of course, I've never confirmed his behavior is the reason, but I don't see how I could do this - I don't see how I could raise it with-other parents with-o it seeming confrontational.) Have you said things to your difficult child about similar situations that you found effective? Would you continue to try to arrange playdates, e.g. with-other kids? His little brother (4ys/no issues) has playdates with-friends and will have another next week.