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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 466477" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Ah yes, been there done that, smile. Now, at age 14 he is on to telling even neighbors, "Well, she can't tell me what to do, she is not my REAL mom," when I am patient I explain things to him--when he has calmed. Other times I tell him that the judge and his birth certificate say different! I was told even when my son was small, that many of his statements were right on for an adopted child but is ability to deal with the emotions of it all was really delayed as was all of his emotioal development. </p><p></p><p>I have asked other adoptees and I am sure you have read a lot on this too.....there is always the fantasy life ....they wonder about if they were with t heir birth families would they be happier. Of course, my son has no idea his mother was in jail and his father is again. He doesn't understand that ALL of the children are with new mommies and daddies. It is normal as others said but there is also a layer to it that he and you will deal with in different ways during different phases of his life. I never let mine know he has gotten to me though, he would for sure say it way more often just to see me sweat! (that is a little normal too, but he does everything with extra gusto)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 466477, member: 12886"] Ah yes, been there done that, smile. Now, at age 14 he is on to telling even neighbors, "Well, she can't tell me what to do, she is not my REAL mom," when I am patient I explain things to him--when he has calmed. Other times I tell him that the judge and his birth certificate say different! I was told even when my son was small, that many of his statements were right on for an adopted child but is ability to deal with the emotions of it all was really delayed as was all of his emotioal development. I have asked other adoptees and I am sure you have read a lot on this too.....there is always the fantasy life ....they wonder about if they were with t heir birth families would they be happier. Of course, my son has no idea his mother was in jail and his father is again. He doesn't understand that ALL of the children are with new mommies and daddies. It is normal as others said but there is also a layer to it that he and you will deal with in different ways during different phases of his life. I never let mine know he has gotten to me though, he would for sure say it way more often just to see me sweat! (that is a little normal too, but he does everything with extra gusto) [/QUOTE]
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