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<blockquote data-quote="Woofens" data-source="post: 204313" data-attributes="member: 4425"><p>Thanks guys! I feel better about him being there now, especially since I saw him obviously having fun. We'll see how it goes tonight when I leave. We also explained to him that the psychiatrist has to be the one that says when it is time for him to go home, and SO told him that he needs to talk to the psychiatrist and the staff about how he feels so that maybe he can get home sooner. </p><p></p><p>As for difficult child D.... he wants to go to Wyotech in either Daytona FL or someplace in CA for motorcycle repair. I told him and my mom when he dropped out that I wasn't going to set up him getting his GED, that he needed to take responsibility for that. I'm not sure what he is going to do about a job and stuff. My mom took him 2 years ago, and I have left her to deal with most of his GFGness. She wanted him, told me it was my fault he acts the way he does, so its all on her now. I worry about him, but I tried my best. He does come here alot for gas money for his bike, but I have pretty much cut him off except for gas to put in applications. I put the insurance and the license plates on the bike for his 18th birthday. I also wouldn't cut short my date with SO last night to bring him home from the football game. He did find other transportation. (He can't ride the motorcycle after dark as he only has his permit). I have already started trying to "detach" from him... he made his own decisions and I did all I could to get him on the right track. He has actually matured alot in the past few months, but he still has a long way to go. </p><p></p><p>My SO.. well that is a story in itself. He is the kindest, most patient man I have ever met. He loves my kids and treats them like they were his own, he works 92 hours a week, 7 days a week most of the time, so that the kids don't go without. He also treats Moonwolf and Moe like his kids, because I consider them mine. His kids are grown, 26 and 28 now and we have our first grandchild, she turned a year old this month. His son (26) is still a difficult child, but has cut us out of his life because SO stopped the handouts, and the bailouts. I can't even begin to tell you how much I appreciate him or how much he means to me. I still can't believe that he is so committed to me and my kids, even with both the difficult child's and the easy child problems. A lessor man would have run screaming by now, especially since he raised his kids, and should now be enjoying grandchildren. His ex-wife left him and the kids when they were barely in elementary school, so he was a single dad with no help from her. To take on another family now says a lot about him I think, especially a family with difficult children. Have you realized yet that I love him and he is my rock? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I honestly don't know where I would be without him. </p><p></p><p>We had a good date, we talked alot about difficult child J, but still enjoyed ourselves. Richard (our server) knew we were having problems with difficult child J so we told him about difficult child J being in the psychiatric hospital. He sat down beside me and gave me a big hug and told me how sorry he was that it had come to this and that I did the right thing. He is an awesome young man, and I'll miss him if he ever leaves Outback. We have already talked about "what if" he leaves, and plan to keep in touch by phone and stuff. He actually sits and talks to us about stuff going on in his life, so this isn't the usual customer/server relationship LOL I don't make friends easily so when I find a new one I tend to try to keep them. I have very few "friends", a lot of acquaintances, but only a couple people I consider true friends. Those I do have I cherish and would do anything for, just like my family. </p><p></p><p>Ok, I've babbled long enough, sorry. It's easy to talk here, because I don't worry so much about getting judged by you all. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Jan</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Woofens, post: 204313, member: 4425"] Thanks guys! I feel better about him being there now, especially since I saw him obviously having fun. We'll see how it goes tonight when I leave. We also explained to him that the psychiatrist has to be the one that says when it is time for him to go home, and SO told him that he needs to talk to the psychiatrist and the staff about how he feels so that maybe he can get home sooner. As for difficult child D.... he wants to go to Wyotech in either Daytona FL or someplace in CA for motorcycle repair. I told him and my mom when he dropped out that I wasn't going to set up him getting his GED, that he needed to take responsibility for that. I'm not sure what he is going to do about a job and stuff. My mom took him 2 years ago, and I have left her to deal with most of his GFGness. She wanted him, told me it was my fault he acts the way he does, so its all on her now. I worry about him, but I tried my best. He does come here alot for gas money for his bike, but I have pretty much cut him off except for gas to put in applications. I put the insurance and the license plates on the bike for his 18th birthday. I also wouldn't cut short my date with SO last night to bring him home from the football game. He did find other transportation. (He can't ride the motorcycle after dark as he only has his permit). I have already started trying to "detach" from him... he made his own decisions and I did all I could to get him on the right track. He has actually matured alot in the past few months, but he still has a long way to go. My SO.. well that is a story in itself. He is the kindest, most patient man I have ever met. He loves my kids and treats them like they were his own, he works 92 hours a week, 7 days a week most of the time, so that the kids don't go without. He also treats Moonwolf and Moe like his kids, because I consider them mine. His kids are grown, 26 and 28 now and we have our first grandchild, she turned a year old this month. His son (26) is still a difficult child, but has cut us out of his life because SO stopped the handouts, and the bailouts. I can't even begin to tell you how much I appreciate him or how much he means to me. I still can't believe that he is so committed to me and my kids, even with both the difficult child's and the easy child problems. A lessor man would have run screaming by now, especially since he raised his kids, and should now be enjoying grandchildren. His ex-wife left him and the kids when they were barely in elementary school, so he was a single dad with no help from her. To take on another family now says a lot about him I think, especially a family with difficult children. Have you realized yet that I love him and he is my rock? :) I honestly don't know where I would be without him. We had a good date, we talked alot about difficult child J, but still enjoyed ourselves. Richard (our server) knew we were having problems with difficult child J so we told him about difficult child J being in the psychiatric hospital. He sat down beside me and gave me a big hug and told me how sorry he was that it had come to this and that I did the right thing. He is an awesome young man, and I'll miss him if he ever leaves Outback. We have already talked about "what if" he leaves, and plan to keep in touch by phone and stuff. He actually sits and talks to us about stuff going on in his life, so this isn't the usual customer/server relationship LOL I don't make friends easily so when I find a new one I tend to try to keep them. I have very few "friends", a lot of acquaintances, but only a couple people I consider true friends. Those I do have I cherish and would do anything for, just like my family. Ok, I've babbled long enough, sorry. It's easy to talk here, because I don't worry so much about getting judged by you all. Hugs Jan [/QUOTE]
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