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Family of Origin (FOO) Support Thread Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 662760" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Yay! Okay then SWOT, you punch her in the nose and I will reach through time and the phone line and twist her lower jaw right off and throw it away.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Thank you SWOT, for saying all those nice things about me. But I think I was only nice when I didn't have anger issues. Now? I will probably be tearing jaws off and etc every time someone asks to have the salt passed.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":wine:" title="wine :wine:" data-shortname=":wine:" /></p><p></p><p>Actually, that isn't true. I'm feeling pretty much good about everything, now that I am seeing the wrongness in those words she said instead of harboring guilt over what she implied and shame that she said it out loud. Again, as is the case in every abusive situation, it would be one thing to have been given some specific piece of information that could be validated or let go. These words my mother spoke were a non-specific global condemnation. </p><p></p><p>That's a thing that will be so helpful for all of us to remember, I think. The damage done by abusers and predators is less what they say or do than it is that we trust them when they tell us, in one way or another, that we are dispensable humans.</p><p></p><p>On some level, we believed them. </p><p></p><p>Somewhere in our psyches, we still do.</p><p></p><p>That is why we need to keep at it until we can see them hurting us through our own eyes and never again see ourselves being hurt, like dispensable humans, through their eyes.</p><p></p><p>That is a locus of control issue.</p><p></p><p>That is an important piece to know.</p><p></p><p>Anger must mean we are getting to the bottom of it and finally, we see through our own eyes.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p></p><p>The imagery connected to that phrase now is my hand, twisting my mother's jaw off.</p><p></p><p>Oh, look.</p><p></p><p>Some one has punched her in the nose, too.</p><p></p><p>Good aiming, SWOT.</p><p></p><p>roar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 662760, member: 17461"] Yay! Okay then SWOT, you punch her in the nose and I will reach through time and the phone line and twist her lower jaw right off and throw it away. :O) Thank you SWOT, for saying all those nice things about me. But I think I was only nice when I didn't have anger issues. Now? I will probably be tearing jaws off and etc every time someone asks to have the salt passed. :wine: Actually, that isn't true. I'm feeling pretty much good about everything, now that I am seeing the wrongness in those words she said instead of harboring guilt over what she implied and shame that she said it out loud. Again, as is the case in every abusive situation, it would be one thing to have been given some specific piece of information that could be validated or let go. These words my mother spoke were a non-specific global condemnation. That's a thing that will be so helpful for all of us to remember, I think. The damage done by abusers and predators is less what they say or do than it is that we trust them when they tell us, in one way or another, that we are dispensable humans. On some level, we believed them. Somewhere in our psyches, we still do. That is why we need to keep at it until we can see them hurting us through our own eyes and never again see ourselves being hurt, like dispensable humans, through their eyes. That is a locus of control issue. That is an important piece to know. Anger must mean we are getting to the bottom of it and finally, we see through our own eyes. Cedar The imagery connected to that phrase now is my hand, twisting my mother's jaw off. Oh, look. Some one has punched her in the nose, too. Good aiming, SWOT. roar [/QUOTE]
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