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<blockquote data-quote="nerfherder" data-source="post: 662880" data-attributes="member: 15907"><p>Oh yeah, I got a lot of the same, with the extra sprinkle of "That's not something girls do" or even better, "that's not something JEWISH girls do." I do carry resentment, and I'm sure it still goes on in a more subtle manner - just from the attitudes of many of my mom's friends at shul. Her son's the success story, i.e. money. (My brother and I get along pretty well, the biggest drawback being his very Irish temper. (Yep, he's adopted, immigrant Irish farm wife who had a thing with the farmhand while hubby was out of town on business, private adoption handled it) and I'm the post adoption surprise.) </p><p></p><p>Bro and I both married goyim, both of us are separated/divorced, for a long time he was the classic pot smoking alcoholic Difficult Child, and I was the Good Girl. Now he's the Good Boy who takes care of Mom (96, he's there at least once a month managing the details of her living on her own) and I'm the slacker never-calling poor kid by choice who would rather stick her hand in a breeched doe goat having delayed labor than ever live in Suburban SoCal EVER AGAIN. Or ANY suburb. Or anyplace where a beat-up pickup truck with fragments of hay and a slight odor of the last dump dropoff would get me ticketed for leaving an "abandoned vehicle" parked in her development. (No, hasn't happened. Yet.)</p><p></p><p>Heck, I'd rather stick my hand in a stuck farrowing sow. And that's saying something. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>At least now at 52 I'm learning useful skills. Yesterday I had my first experience with our occasional farmhand building a post and board-rail hog fence. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I could probably build my own small house from scratch at this point (but the wiring would have to be a barter deal, electricity scares me. Less than it used to, but still.)</p><p></p><p>I'm walking around, sweaty, stinky, still wearing yesterday's t-shirt and my pajama pants thanks to a sudden case of Dry Period cramps ruining my morning. Feh. But the livestock are fed, and the newest incarnation of our duck house is apparently predator-tight. Yay! No new dead ducks in the orchard!</p><p></p><p>Wait, where were we? Right. No goyim. No shiksas. Whatever. Mom was lucky I was with a guy. I'll be lucky if Gothish Princess settles down with a job and a competent ... whatever. Man. Woman. Lawnmower. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Right now Kiddo is likely the most conventionally successful and functional female in the family. How's that for weird? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nerfherder, post: 662880, member: 15907"] Oh yeah, I got a lot of the same, with the extra sprinkle of "That's not something girls do" or even better, "that's not something JEWISH girls do." I do carry resentment, and I'm sure it still goes on in a more subtle manner - just from the attitudes of many of my mom's friends at shul. Her son's the success story, i.e. money. (My brother and I get along pretty well, the biggest drawback being his very Irish temper. (Yep, he's adopted, immigrant Irish farm wife who had a thing with the farmhand while hubby was out of town on business, private adoption handled it) and I'm the post adoption surprise.) Bro and I both married goyim, both of us are separated/divorced, for a long time he was the classic pot smoking alcoholic Difficult Child, and I was the Good Girl. Now he's the Good Boy who takes care of Mom (96, he's there at least once a month managing the details of her living on her own) and I'm the slacker never-calling poor kid by choice who would rather stick her hand in a breeched doe goat having delayed labor than ever live in Suburban SoCal EVER AGAIN. Or ANY suburb. Or anyplace where a beat-up pickup truck with fragments of hay and a slight odor of the last dump dropoff would get me ticketed for leaving an "abandoned vehicle" parked in her development. (No, hasn't happened. Yet.) Heck, I'd rather stick my hand in a stuck farrowing sow. And that's saying something. :) At least now at 52 I'm learning useful skills. Yesterday I had my first experience with our occasional farmhand building a post and board-rail hog fence. :) I could probably build my own small house from scratch at this point (but the wiring would have to be a barter deal, electricity scares me. Less than it used to, but still.) I'm walking around, sweaty, stinky, still wearing yesterday's t-shirt and my pajama pants thanks to a sudden case of Dry Period cramps ruining my morning. Feh. But the livestock are fed, and the newest incarnation of our duck house is apparently predator-tight. Yay! No new dead ducks in the orchard! Wait, where were we? Right. No goyim. No shiksas. Whatever. Mom was lucky I was with a guy. I'll be lucky if Gothish Princess settles down with a job and a competent ... whatever. Man. Woman. Lawnmower. :) Right now Kiddo is likely the most conventionally successful and functional female in the family. How's that for weird? :) [/QUOTE]
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