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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662887" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>To Nerfie: Wow. We have lots of Jewish families represented on our thread here.</p><p></p><p>As soon as I got out of Loonybin (family home) I never lived Jewish again. In a very sad way, my upbringing made me not want to be associated with Jewishness in any way. The kids at school were 98% Jewish and bullied me terribly. The only nice ones, in general with a very few exceptions, were the non-Jews so I started thinking, as a kid will, that Jews are mean and gentiles are nicer. To me, that was my life in childhood. But I still wanted to obey the "date a Jewish boy" rule in high school partly because I had been brainwashed into thinking Jews were superior to other boys. Please forgive me anyone who may be offended. I was told that and I thought it was true. I certainly don't agree now. Frankly, I never lived around Jewish people much after my escape. I do not blame Jewish people on my adult problems. They were kids too and they just played out what they knew and heard from their own parents and, yes, it was a rather affluent area although we were either not affluent or my parents acted as if we were not and, except for the teasing about my clothes and car and "ugly" house, I really didn't wish I was rich. I loathed the snobs I grew up with and I realize this can happen in any ethnic flavored affluent neighborhood...people can care more about what they own that who they are and who you are.</p><p></p><p>I became a Christian first...or tried extremely hard to become the same religion as my first husband. I brought up my oldest three in the church and went myself. Then, when I hit around my mid thirties, and was still uncertain about what I believed and didn't, I read a book that changed my life by George Anderson called "We Don't Die." That lead to a lifetime of searching my own spirituality and the experiences of others and I got involved in the paranormal and read extensively about near death experiences and have a special psychic I talk to once a year who has connected me with my family on the other side. Yes, I am sure it is them. Yes, I took my medication last night. Yes, I am probably less afraid to die than most people because I just don't think we do die the way it looks like we do. It was a personal journey that affected me for the good in every way. I walk and breathe my Higher Power. But I keep it to myself.</p><p></p><p>I do believe that the main message of my beliefs is that we decide to come down to earth (again) because we have lessons to learn that we have not mastered yet and we are here to learn to love one another. That is partly why I tried so hard to keep loving up my mom and called her. It was what I understood one is supposed to do on earth. But it takes two to resolve problems.</p><p></p><p>I do believe we will have to face each other again. And all of my FOO will come together again, but they w ill have a different mindset and so will I and we will talk on a higher level.</p><p></p><p>Now if you have called the men in white coats, that's not nice. Please tell them you didn't mean it.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, this belief system drives my life. I believe in caring, in helping the down and out, in being there, in codependency...which made it all the harder to accept that my belief system did not mean I have to sacrifice every bit of me for others. That circle took a long time to commplete. Yes, I'm here to love. Yes, I have expectations of how I should be treated in return or you can't join my world.</p><p></p><p>I feel like I"m a newer soul, not an old soul.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, just some sharing that I'm hesitant to tell most people because so many think you're wrong or crazy if you don't follow a conventional religion or are an atheist (in which case then many people judge you as baaaaaaaaad.)</p><p></p><p>I just got home from work. It feels like 100 degrees outside, but I'm going out anyway with Jumper. No, it's not far. Just to the car where we will blast the air conditioner <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662887, member: 1550"] To Nerfie: Wow. We have lots of Jewish families represented on our thread here. As soon as I got out of Loonybin (family home) I never lived Jewish again. In a very sad way, my upbringing made me not want to be associated with Jewishness in any way. The kids at school were 98% Jewish and bullied me terribly. The only nice ones, in general with a very few exceptions, were the non-Jews so I started thinking, as a kid will, that Jews are mean and gentiles are nicer. To me, that was my life in childhood. But I still wanted to obey the "date a Jewish boy" rule in high school partly because I had been brainwashed into thinking Jews were superior to other boys. Please forgive me anyone who may be offended. I was told that and I thought it was true. I certainly don't agree now. Frankly, I never lived around Jewish people much after my escape. I do not blame Jewish people on my adult problems. They were kids too and they just played out what they knew and heard from their own parents and, yes, it was a rather affluent area although we were either not affluent or my parents acted as if we were not and, except for the teasing about my clothes and car and "ugly" house, I really didn't wish I was rich. I loathed the snobs I grew up with and I realize this can happen in any ethnic flavored affluent neighborhood...people can care more about what they own that who they are and who you are. I became a Christian first...or tried extremely hard to become the same religion as my first husband. I brought up my oldest three in the church and went myself. Then, when I hit around my mid thirties, and was still uncertain about what I believed and didn't, I read a book that changed my life by George Anderson called "We Don't Die." That lead to a lifetime of searching my own spirituality and the experiences of others and I got involved in the paranormal and read extensively about near death experiences and have a special psychic I talk to once a year who has connected me with my family on the other side. Yes, I am sure it is them. Yes, I took my medication last night. Yes, I am probably less afraid to die than most people because I just don't think we do die the way it looks like we do. It was a personal journey that affected me for the good in every way. I walk and breathe my Higher Power. But I keep it to myself. I do believe that the main message of my beliefs is that we decide to come down to earth (again) because we have lessons to learn that we have not mastered yet and we are here to learn to love one another. That is partly why I tried so hard to keep loving up my mom and called her. It was what I understood one is supposed to do on earth. But it takes two to resolve problems. I do believe we will have to face each other again. And all of my FOO will come together again, but they w ill have a different mindset and so will I and we will talk on a higher level. Now if you have called the men in white coats, that's not nice. Please tell them you didn't mean it. Anyhow, this belief system drives my life. I believe in caring, in helping the down and out, in being there, in codependency...which made it all the harder to accept that my belief system did not mean I have to sacrifice every bit of me for others. That circle took a long time to commplete. Yes, I'm here to love. Yes, I have expectations of how I should be treated in return or you can't join my world. I feel like I"m a newer soul, not an old soul. Anyhow, just some sharing that I'm hesitant to tell most people because so many think you're wrong or crazy if you don't follow a conventional religion or are an atheist (in which case then many people judge you as baaaaaaaaad.) I just got home from work. It feels like 100 degrees outside, but I'm going out anyway with Jumper. No, it's not far. Just to the car where we will blast the air conditioner ;) [/QUOTE]
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