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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662910" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Forgive me. I'm on my tablet and it auto corrects in odd ways so I hope this makes sense.</p><p></p><p>I would never side with your sister and I can't side with m. Controlling a disturbed adult who is not rational or stable is not within anybody's control. What are you supposed to do???</p><p></p><p>By your close explanation of your sons behavior, I feel that with this extra knowledge it is crystal clear that living with you is dangerous to you and harmful to him. You are his trigger because you love him.</p><p></p><p>I have no clue what is causing his behavior but he won't follow through with help for himself and that's the bottom line. He won't try. He is ruining your health and your relationship with m yet our laws about being unable to help the mentally ill make it impossible for you to do anything for him without his consent and sadly we have dismantled care centers for the mentally ill. These laws are not your fault.</p><p></p><p>I think moving away could be very good for you. Whether you go or stay, your son will still stay sick unless he is willing to get intensive help in my opinion including medication trials which aren't fun. Been there done that and it took years to find myself that medications were found that really help. The truth is, medications may help him and may not. There are new methods of treatment now too that do not require medication such as E M D R trauma therapy. Certainly son had trauma he may not even remember in the orphanage. But will he try it?</p><p></p><p>At any rate, talking to hostile neighbors about you was mean. I would have felt hurt and betrayed. Acting up in the train? Not even sure what to say and the same with calling your name. I can't diagnose why he'd do it and neither can m. But clearly you can not cure him.</p><p></p><p>I hope you trust your instincts. Moving may force him to face his demons. I would not let him back home but how sad is it that in our country, no matter how we beg, nobody will change the vile laws that leave so many mentally ill on the streets.</p><p></p><p>Our stupid lack of ability to help our loved ones is not your fault. Many share your dilemma.</p><p></p><p>I am very sad and angry for you and your son tonight. Just please be good enough to yourself to face the reality that you can not help your son because you have no legal options and that his behavior toward you could be dangerous to yourself and it's not your fault</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662910, member: 1550"] Forgive me. I'm on my tablet and it auto corrects in odd ways so I hope this makes sense. I would never side with your sister and I can't side with m. Controlling a disturbed adult who is not rational or stable is not within anybody's control. What are you supposed to do??? By your close explanation of your sons behavior, I feel that with this extra knowledge it is crystal clear that living with you is dangerous to you and harmful to him. You are his trigger because you love him. I have no clue what is causing his behavior but he won't follow through with help for himself and that's the bottom line. He won't try. He is ruining your health and your relationship with m yet our laws about being unable to help the mentally ill make it impossible for you to do anything for him without his consent and sadly we have dismantled care centers for the mentally ill. These laws are not your fault. I think moving away could be very good for you. Whether you go or stay, your son will still stay sick unless he is willing to get intensive help in my opinion including medication trials which aren't fun. Been there done that and it took years to find myself that medications were found that really help. The truth is, medications may help him and may not. There are new methods of treatment now too that do not require medication such as E M D R trauma therapy. Certainly son had trauma he may not even remember in the orphanage. But will he try it? At any rate, talking to hostile neighbors about you was mean. I would have felt hurt and betrayed. Acting up in the train? Not even sure what to say and the same with calling your name. I can't diagnose why he'd do it and neither can m. But clearly you can not cure him. I hope you trust your instincts. Moving may force him to face his demons. I would not let him back home but how sad is it that in our country, no matter how we beg, nobody will change the vile laws that leave so many mentally ill on the streets. Our stupid lack of ability to help our loved ones is not your fault. Many share your dilemma. I am very sad and angry for you and your son tonight. Just please be good enough to yourself to face the reality that you can not help your son because you have no legal options and that his behavior toward you could be dangerous to yourself and it's not your fault Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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