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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662954" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok.</p><p></p><p>I am woman.</p><p></p><p>Hear me roar at the idiots (yes, they are ALL idiots) who told you this about your son.</p><p></p><p>ARE THEY REALLY THAT DUMB?????</p><p></p><p>Your son was born in an orphanage, exposed to drugs and alcohol, and got no love and some nasty DNA from his birthparents. He has to have had some attachment problems, whether or not they showed early on. He also has brain damage. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!</p><p></p><p>OMG, how stupid is it to tell somebody if they were just stricter a child will be an angel?</p><p></p><p>Anyone here agree? LOLOLOL!</p><p></p><p>That makes me so angry for you, Copa,l that I just want to scream at anyone who told you that that they are too stupid to live.</p><p></p><p>And maybe they aren't too stupid to actually LIVE, but they are very ignorant.</p><p></p><p>We have no control over our adult kids and they do not become what we make them, unless there was severe abuse in our lives that WE meted out. Nobody can guarantee a wonderful ending for any child. Nobody. Nobody. No way. No how.</p><p>Religious people who hate gays (not all do, I know this) and preach against it have had gay children. I'm sure they were strict about how bad being gay is and how their child would be kicked to the trashcan if the child was gay. But it happens anyway, doesn't it?</p><p></p><p>Quiet parents with good manners can have loud, boisterous children who spill milk and don't have good social skills and pick their noses. SO WHAT?????</p><p></p><p>Authoritative parenting has been proven to be the worst kind and cause the most damage in a child. Do they honestly believe that if they forced their kids to say "sir" and "ma'am" and shake everyone's hand, and sit down and shut up around adults, and whatever else uber strict parents do that they will have marvelous children? Well, being too strict isn't good either. That has been proven. And some kids are just plain defiant. It's in their blood. What should we then do? BEAT them until they are too SCARED of us to tell us how much they hate us? And many who were beaten like that truly do hate their parents and reject them and get into trouble. It happens to any type of parent.</p><p></p><p>This is not a parenting problem.</p><p></p><p>I'd like to swear but I can't so (fill in whatever words fill your imagination) right there!</p><p></p><p>Are we, in this thread, the only people on earth who understand that every person has individual DNA which probably drives behavior more than how we parented our kids, as long as they were not abused? Even abused children, grow up to be very different types of adults...they all handle it differently.</p><p></p><p>Pardon my outburst, but nothing is more ignorant than to think "If only you'd spanked him or made him skip dinner or punished him enough, he'd be a stellar fellow."</p><p></p><p>Idiots. Idiots. Idiots.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry. Carry on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662954, member: 1550"] Ok. I am woman. Hear me roar at the idiots (yes, they are ALL idiots) who told you this about your son. ARE THEY REALLY THAT DUMB????? Your son was born in an orphanage, exposed to drugs and alcohol, and got no love and some nasty DNA from his birthparents. He has to have had some attachment problems, whether or not they showed early on. He also has brain damage. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! OMG, how stupid is it to tell somebody if they were just stricter a child will be an angel? Anyone here agree? LOLOLOL! That makes me so angry for you, Copa,l that I just want to scream at anyone who told you that that they are too stupid to live. And maybe they aren't too stupid to actually LIVE, but they are very ignorant. We have no control over our adult kids and they do not become what we make them, unless there was severe abuse in our lives that WE meted out. Nobody can guarantee a wonderful ending for any child. Nobody. Nobody. No way. No how. Religious people who hate gays (not all do, I know this) and preach against it have had gay children. I'm sure they were strict about how bad being gay is and how their child would be kicked to the trashcan if the child was gay. But it happens anyway, doesn't it? Quiet parents with good manners can have loud, boisterous children who spill milk and don't have good social skills and pick their noses. SO WHAT????? Authoritative parenting has been proven to be the worst kind and cause the most damage in a child. Do they honestly believe that if they forced their kids to say "sir" and "ma'am" and shake everyone's hand, and sit down and shut up around adults, and whatever else uber strict parents do that they will have marvelous children? Well, being too strict isn't good either. That has been proven. And some kids are just plain defiant. It's in their blood. What should we then do? BEAT them until they are too SCARED of us to tell us how much they hate us? And many who were beaten like that truly do hate their parents and reject them and get into trouble. It happens to any type of parent. This is not a parenting problem. I'd like to swear but I can't so (fill in whatever words fill your imagination) right there! Are we, in this thread, the only people on earth who understand that every person has individual DNA which probably drives behavior more than how we parented our kids, as long as they were not abused? Even abused children, grow up to be very different types of adults...they all handle it differently. Pardon my outburst, but nothing is more ignorant than to think "If only you'd spanked him or made him skip dinner or punished him enough, he'd be a stellar fellow." Idiots. Idiots. Idiots. I'm sorry. Carry on. [/QUOTE]
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