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<blockquote data-quote="SeekingStrength" data-source="post: 663153" data-attributes="member: 17635"><p>And there is no doubt, your hair was/is beautiful. Wow. That comment just plain stinks of mean.</p><p></p><p>I have a few stories similar--- about my mother. Not about my hair. But, hey, i have some stories. Stories of meanness. My mom, when she got irritated with me, would call me a <em>slut. </em>And, if my dad called her out on it, would later say she did not mean <em>slut </em>like i thought she meant <em>slut</em>. She just meant <em>cheap</em>, lol. I was probably about 13 and had no opportunities to be a slut, however way she meant.</p><p></p><p>If i brought this up to her now, she would totally deny it ever happened.</p><p></p><p>sigh</p><p></p><p>husband and I are observing our 35th anniversary tomorrow. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> We are going on an overnight trip. Last time we took this VERY SAME TRIP, we both received texts from Difficult Child and a "friend" of his. <em>I need to talk to you, Difficult Child needs to talk to you.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>We are both trusting that the universe works better for us this time. (I blocked Difficult Child's #, so it will surely go better for me).</p><p></p><p>And, i am more protective of my 35 yrs of commitment to husband than ever before. He has earned my loyalty a thousand times over. I wish I had stepped up 30 years ago.</p><p></p><p>He held his tongue many times.</p><p></p><p>And, then he did not a couple months ago and mom is no longer speaking to him.</p><p></p><p>My mom, i expect, would love nothing more than for me to <em>come to her side, diss my husband for his absolutely maltreatment of her. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite5" alt=":confused:" title="Confused :confused:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":confused:" /> </em>If I did that, she might even speak to me again, haha.</p><p></p><p>That won't happen. Is it because I got smarter and/or because there is so much history?</p><p></p><p>Hey, you guys post stuff and it gets me to remembering. It's your fault. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite6" alt=":cool:" title="Cool :cool:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":cool:" /></p><p></p><p>It is helpful. I had not remembered the slut comments for 20 years. Can't wait to share this with husband.....because, really, it's kinda big stuff.</p><p></p><p>And, SWOT, when i said it is painful to read, I hope you know i meant because of my memories. I am grateful.</p><p></p><p>When you guys share, something in my core sometimes kicks in. And, it is painful, but i appreciate this forum to write it out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeekingStrength, post: 663153, member: 17635"] And there is no doubt, your hair was/is beautiful. Wow. That comment just plain stinks of mean. I have a few stories similar--- about my mother. Not about my hair. But, hey, i have some stories. Stories of meanness. My mom, when she got irritated with me, would call me a [I]slut. [/I]And, if my dad called her out on it, would later say she did not mean [I]slut [/I]like i thought she meant [I]slut[/I]. She just meant [I]cheap[/I], lol. I was probably about 13 and had no opportunities to be a slut, however way she meant. If i brought this up to her now, she would totally deny it ever happened. sigh husband and I are observing our 35th anniversary tomorrow. :D We are going on an overnight trip. Last time we took this VERY SAME TRIP, we both received texts from Difficult Child and a "friend" of his. [I]I need to talk to you, Difficult Child needs to talk to you. [/I] We are both trusting that the universe works better for us this time. (I blocked Difficult Child's #, so it will surely go better for me). And, i am more protective of my 35 yrs of commitment to husband than ever before. He has earned my loyalty a thousand times over. I wish I had stepped up 30 years ago. He held his tongue many times. And, then he did not a couple months ago and mom is no longer speaking to him. My mom, i expect, would love nothing more than for me to [I]come to her side, diss my husband for his absolutely maltreatment of her. :confused: [/I]If I did that, she might even speak to me again, haha. That won't happen. Is it because I got smarter and/or because there is so much history? Hey, you guys post stuff and it gets me to remembering. It's your fault. :cool: It is helpful. I had not remembered the slut comments for 20 years. Can't wait to share this with husband.....because, really, it's kinda big stuff. And, SWOT, when i said it is painful to read, I hope you know i meant because of my memories. I am grateful. When you guys share, something in my core sometimes kicks in. And, it is painful, but i appreciate this forum to write it out. [/QUOTE]
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