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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661367" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I am not going to tell you not to be upset. This is not the world you are used to. But many people do not trust people in their family and they survive. Your son has you and his mom. If he doesn't trust the other family members (and they probably don't trust him either) it will still be okay. It is for many, many, many, many people. If you act up and don't become responsible as a man, you are going to tick off your family and not everyone is going to like you and maybe you will not trust one another. If he gets his act together, with the love your family has always had, chances are good that everything will resolve, don't you think? Right now he needs to get a GOOD plan for his life. If he can not control his outbursts,t hen he needs to go for psychiatric testing to take care of this, as I had to do at age twenty three. Nobody can take care of his problems but him, but he CAN do it. He CAN.</p><p>I am sorry your son feels your family doesn't like him or has betrayed him. It was a bad idea of your sister's to bring him to your parent's house if she was worried about their health. She made a mistake in judgment, in my opinion. But I do believe she did not anticipate what happened and meant to help. Why she waited so long to contact you about changing her mind is really baffling. All I know from my own life is that people talk to people and their minds get changed. Sometimes we learn why. Sometimes we don't. I'm sorry. At the same time, I think it was appropriate to contact your son rather than you to tell him she would not give him a ride. He is a man and this problem is actually his, not yourus. Now if he felt you would help, he could have called you after the phone call. But at his age, I would not be upset if somebody contacted my adult child rather t han me. That would not have been an issue, at least not to me. However, it ended up in your lap and created a hardship.</p><p></p><p>I still think that the main perpetrator here is your son. It was in his power to be respectful for a just a while in your parents home and he didn't do it. That caused a huge chain reaction and bad feelings in the entire family. This is not uncommon when dealing with these types of serious issues. But I'm so sorry it happened to such nice people.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661367, member: 1550"] I am not going to tell you not to be upset. This is not the world you are used to. But many people do not trust people in their family and they survive. Your son has you and his mom. If he doesn't trust the other family members (and they probably don't trust him either) it will still be okay. It is for many, many, many, many people. If you act up and don't become responsible as a man, you are going to tick off your family and not everyone is going to like you and maybe you will not trust one another. If he gets his act together, with the love your family has always had, chances are good that everything will resolve, don't you think? Right now he needs to get a GOOD plan for his life. If he can not control his outbursts,t hen he needs to go for psychiatric testing to take care of this, as I had to do at age twenty three. Nobody can take care of his problems but him, but he CAN do it. He CAN. I am sorry your son feels your family doesn't like him or has betrayed him. It was a bad idea of your sister's to bring him to your parent's house if she was worried about their health. She made a mistake in judgment, in my opinion. But I do believe she did not anticipate what happened and meant to help. Why she waited so long to contact you about changing her mind is really baffling. All I know from my own life is that people talk to people and their minds get changed. Sometimes we learn why. Sometimes we don't. I'm sorry. At the same time, I think it was appropriate to contact your son rather than you to tell him she would not give him a ride. He is a man and this problem is actually his, not yourus. Now if he felt you would help, he could have called you after the phone call. But at his age, I would not be upset if somebody contacted my adult child rather t han me. That would not have been an issue, at least not to me. However, it ended up in your lap and created a hardship. I still think that the main perpetrator here is your son. It was in his power to be respectful for a just a while in your parents home and he didn't do it. That caused a huge chain reaction and bad feelings in the entire family. This is not uncommon when dealing with these types of serious issues. But I'm so sorry it happened to such nice people. [/QUOTE]
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