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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661461" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lil, you have often said he is like his biological father.</p><p></p><p>Don't every underestimate the power of DNA. Adopted parents know this.</p><p></p><p>I personally can't imagine it was your fault unless you secretly beat him up or belittled him constantly.</p><p></p><p>He is what he is made of too. Many adoptive parents, whose kids finally meet birthparents they never met, are STUNNED at how much their kids are like those people whom they have never seen before in t heir livevs, even sometimes having the same gestures and ways of speaking with their hands. This is DNA. It can't be erased. It is not about parenting. I wish I'd had two loving people like you and Jabber as parents.</p><p></p><p>You should not feel ashamed because you didn't do the deeds. Your son did and your son is not only not you, but he is nothing like you at all. You are mother and son, but you are not alike in any way. It happens, even in biological homes...one of the children takes after one parent's personality traits far more than the other ones.Perhaps both of them were Aspies, but I'm sometimes convinced he's an Aspie and sometimes now as my autistic spectrum son is not like him. Even Aspies have their own personalities and are not alike.</p><p></p><p>I hate it when you blame yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661461, member: 1550"] Lil, you have often said he is like his biological father. Don't every underestimate the power of DNA. Adopted parents know this. I personally can't imagine it was your fault unless you secretly beat him up or belittled him constantly. He is what he is made of too. Many adoptive parents, whose kids finally meet birthparents they never met, are STUNNED at how much their kids are like those people whom they have never seen before in t heir livevs, even sometimes having the same gestures and ways of speaking with their hands. This is DNA. It can't be erased. It is not about parenting. I wish I'd had two loving people like you and Jabber as parents. You should not feel ashamed because you didn't do the deeds. Your son did and your son is not only not you, but he is nothing like you at all. You are mother and son, but you are not alike in any way. It happens, even in biological homes...one of the children takes after one parent's personality traits far more than the other ones.Perhaps both of them were Aspies, but I'm sometimes convinced he's an Aspie and sometimes now as my autistic spectrum son is not like him. Even Aspies have their own personalities and are not alike. I hate it when you blame yourself. [/QUOTE]
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