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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 661558" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>In our experience, when family cannot change the D C either, they wash their hands of it. They have gone out of their ways; they have done their best.</p><p></p><p>It didn't work. Oftentimes, the consequences were not foreseen or even, imagined. </p><p></p><p>The family member will have been traumatized. Until confronted with a D C in full flower, there is not a person in the world who doesn't believe they could help them where we could not.</p><p></p><p>It's a horrible shock to come aware of what has happened to a niece or nephew or grand. It's a horrible shock to feel yourself vulnerable to someone you love. It's a horrible shock to see all that right up close <em>and not be able to fix it</em>.</p><p></p><p>Believe it or not, your family's sympathies lie with you and Lil.</p><p></p><p>What we wanted too, was for our families not to treat D C differently. </p><p></p><p>Realistically, that is not going to happen until the D C changes.</p><p></p><p>When our D C changed, family made themselves available; in this way, trust can begin to be rewoven. </p><p></p><p>In some cases, there will be no reweaving. </p><p></p><p>In some cases, these things that have happened will be used to justify all kinds of things that were part of an agenda the other person has held, all along.</p><p></p><p>This has nothing to do with you.</p><p></p><p>You and Lil are being challenged; meet it with integrity and purpose and heart.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry this is happening. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 661558, member: 17461"] In our experience, when family cannot change the D C either, they wash their hands of it. They have gone out of their ways; they have done their best. It didn't work. Oftentimes, the consequences were not foreseen or even, imagined. The family member will have been traumatized. Until confronted with a D C in full flower, there is not a person in the world who doesn't believe they could help them where we could not. It's a horrible shock to come aware of what has happened to a niece or nephew or grand. It's a horrible shock to feel yourself vulnerable to someone you love. It's a horrible shock to see all that right up close [I]and not be able to fix it[/I]. Believe it or not, your family's sympathies lie with you and Lil. What we wanted too, was for our families not to treat D C differently. Realistically, that is not going to happen until the D C changes. When our D C changed, family made themselves available; in this way, trust can begin to be rewoven. In some cases, there will be no reweaving. In some cases, these things that have happened will be used to justify all kinds of things that were part of an agenda the other person has held, all along. This has nothing to do with you. You and Lil are being challenged; meet it with integrity and purpose and heart. I am sorry this is happening. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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