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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 661661" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, you have three choices.</p><p></p><p>1/We want our kids to change in dramatic ways. If it is not healthy for you mentally to talk to your son when he calls you, you need to change yourself and not answer that often. Texting is the same thing only in words you can read over and over again. No difference.</p><p></p><p>2/You can start not listening/not giving him answers if he does call. Be very quiet. Let him rant. Put the phone down for a while if you are getting agitated. Every so often say, "I see." "Hmmmm." "I am sorry." But don't lecture, try to talk sense into him (how many times have you tried that only to turn it into a tirade even against YOU) and you don't have to really listen either if it's the same ole, same ole. If he texts don't read it all...it is nonsense...and type "Oh" or "I'm sorry" every so often. Nothing that will ramp him up again. Just benign responses, the fewer words the better. Less is more.</p><p></p><p>3/You can keep talking to him, trying to talk sense to him, etc. every time he calls or texts and get stressed out, ill and angry that it has no effect.</p><p></p><p>We all have these choices.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 661661, member: 1550"] Well, you have three choices. 1/We want our kids to change in dramatic ways. If it is not healthy for you mentally to talk to your son when he calls you, you need to change yourself and not answer that often. Texting is the same thing only in words you can read over and over again. No difference. 2/You can start not listening/not giving him answers if he does call. Be very quiet. Let him rant. Put the phone down for a while if you are getting agitated. Every so often say, "I see." "Hmmmm." "I am sorry." But don't lecture, try to talk sense into him (how many times have you tried that only to turn it into a tirade even against YOU) and you don't have to really listen either if it's the same ole, same ole. If he texts don't read it all...it is nonsense...and type "Oh" or "I'm sorry" every so often. Nothing that will ramp him up again. Just benign responses, the fewer words the better. Less is more. 3/You can keep talking to him, trying to talk sense to him, etc. every time he calls or texts and get stressed out, ill and angry that it has no effect. We all have these choices. Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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