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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 661685" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Lil, there are all kinds of rewards from a tantrum, apart from getting something, or what the kid is saying they want. It is not about whether or not you gave in.</p><p></p><p>That I can think of rewards could be: power, attention, to punish, to confuse and throw a parent off guard.</p><p></p><p>What is gained does not necessarily have to do with any specific privilege or thing, if you think of this in terms of a win. And whether we think they got something is not the point. It is from their point of view.</p><p></p><p>Nobody is saying you gave in. Nobody is saying you were not a good parent. If we did we would be accusing ourselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 661685, member: 18958"] Lil, there are all kinds of rewards from a tantrum, apart from getting something, or what the kid is saying they want. It is not about whether or not you gave in. That I can think of rewards could be: power, attention, to punish, to confuse and throw a parent off guard. What is gained does not necessarily have to do with any specific privilege or thing, if you think of this in terms of a win. And whether we think they got something is not the point. It is from their point of view. Nobody is saying you gave in. Nobody is saying you were not a good parent. If we did we would be accusing ourselves. [/QUOTE]
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