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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 327349" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Suz, </p><p></p><p>I keep Rob, H and baby in my prayers every day. I'm sorry to see that he is struggling. I don't imagine many of us would have any idea of what he is truly going through on a daily basis and the challenges he has ALREADY overcome just to get to where he is now. It is (at the least) frustrating to have a knowing brain in a body that refuses to cooperate with the rest of the bodies movements. Brain says - MOVE THAT, body says - nope....not today. Brain says "YOU should do this now." Body says "Yawn, I'm tired now - come back tomorrow and we'll try again." Brain says "I am going to force you to move." Body says "Oh yeah make me genius." This goes on all day long and eventually you get some reaction; however small and you feel as if you've overcome Mt. Everest in a bikini. Learning to walk after the first drunk was a little like that. </p><p></p><p>I told my PT - My head said "I can." my leg and back said "Later." My PT said "Think about a plexiglass box. Then think about a little mouse. Put that mouse in the box and shake that box for about 15 minutes, up, down, left, right, back and forth. Now take the mouse out of that box and put him down on the table and make him walk a straight line. Think he could do it?" </p><p>I laughed and said "I don't think he'd be hardly alive let alone walk sheesh you just shook the mess out of him for 15 minutes." "THAT'S EXACTLY MY POINT!!! You just got your brains scrambled, your signals crossed,your nerves unwired, your muscles criss-crossed, and what has been the way it once was for nearly 17 years was undone hard - jumbled, shaken." </p><p></p><p>Rob-</p><p></p><p>Give yourself some time to unscramble - it takes time for all those parts to settle back into place - IF they ever do, and that's a reality you have to learn to deal with. The first thing I refused to accept was that I had to accept that I may not be able to (blank). But I also knew if that was going to be the way of it? I could NOT allow myself to get depressed. You can't have it both ways. Either or Rob.....Either you are going to give yourself some time, the time it takes and work at wellness...or you can start to accept that it's never going to get better and learn to accept how it is. Either way - there is no room for depression. You have a child on the way that is going to DEPEND on YOU.....and look to YOU for HOW to handle the worst situations and mimic YOU and your behaviors when he falls, when he looses a game, when he misses the ball with a bat, or gets a crayon outside the line. He's going to look to you and Heather for the example on how to handle and overcome the worst things in life and be the best you can for it. </p><p></p><p>If I were there I'd tell you to look at your OWN Mom. Despite whatever the world, YOU or anything else that was thrown at her - look at how she has been a true example for YOU on how to handle crisis. You haven't exactly been an easy kid to raise you know. SO take some of that strength that is just in your genes, draw on it - and tell yourself every day - if the mouse in the box took longer than 3 years to walk a straight line - I'll allow myself 5 years. You have people that love you all around you, you have people all over the country and world keeping you in their good thoughts and prayers - (We've always been here for you kids) GET WELL - Take your time. </p><p></p><p>Much love </p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 327349, member: 4964"] Suz, I keep Rob, H and baby in my prayers every day. I'm sorry to see that he is struggling. I don't imagine many of us would have any idea of what he is truly going through on a daily basis and the challenges he has ALREADY overcome just to get to where he is now. It is (at the least) frustrating to have a knowing brain in a body that refuses to cooperate with the rest of the bodies movements. Brain says - MOVE THAT, body says - nope....not today. Brain says "YOU should do this now." Body says "Yawn, I'm tired now - come back tomorrow and we'll try again." Brain says "I am going to force you to move." Body says "Oh yeah make me genius." This goes on all day long and eventually you get some reaction; however small and you feel as if you've overcome Mt. Everest in a bikini. Learning to walk after the first drunk was a little like that. I told my PT - My head said "I can." my leg and back said "Later." My PT said "Think about a plexiglass box. Then think about a little mouse. Put that mouse in the box and shake that box for about 15 minutes, up, down, left, right, back and forth. Now take the mouse out of that box and put him down on the table and make him walk a straight line. Think he could do it?" I laughed and said "I don't think he'd be hardly alive let alone walk sheesh you just shook the mess out of him for 15 minutes." "THAT'S EXACTLY MY POINT!!! You just got your brains scrambled, your signals crossed,your nerves unwired, your muscles criss-crossed, and what has been the way it once was for nearly 17 years was undone hard - jumbled, shaken." Rob- Give yourself some time to unscramble - it takes time for all those parts to settle back into place - IF they ever do, and that's a reality you have to learn to deal with. The first thing I refused to accept was that I had to accept that I may not be able to (blank). But I also knew if that was going to be the way of it? I could NOT allow myself to get depressed. You can't have it both ways. Either or Rob.....Either you are going to give yourself some time, the time it takes and work at wellness...or you can start to accept that it's never going to get better and learn to accept how it is. Either way - there is no room for depression. You have a child on the way that is going to DEPEND on YOU.....and look to YOU for HOW to handle the worst situations and mimic YOU and your behaviors when he falls, when he looses a game, when he misses the ball with a bat, or gets a crayon outside the line. He's going to look to you and Heather for the example on how to handle and overcome the worst things in life and be the best you can for it. If I were there I'd tell you to look at your OWN Mom. Despite whatever the world, YOU or anything else that was thrown at her - look at how she has been a true example for YOU on how to handle crisis. You haven't exactly been an easy kid to raise you know. SO take some of that strength that is just in your genes, draw on it - and tell yourself every day - if the mouse in the box took longer than 3 years to walk a straight line - I'll allow myself 5 years. You have people that love you all around you, you have people all over the country and world keeping you in their good thoughts and prayers - (We've always been here for you kids) GET WELL - Take your time. Much love :winking: [/QUOTE]
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