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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 404850" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>PO called back so I started going off about it all- reminding him of difficult child's offenses that got him committed both times, that I'm the one that called police on him, how I resent having to continue going thru this while difficult child and my relationship continues to get worse and he's not getting any better. Yes, I understand he has to be held accountable but I don't have to set him up for failure by continuing down a path we;'ve been on for five years and hasn't helped him yet or by doing the same thing we tried last year and expecting it to turn out any differently. He asked if I'd consider going to dss and filing for relief of custoody. I said yes but then explained the situation with my bro and what I'd been told by dss in the last jurisdiction and since they are a state agency, it would probably be the same deal here.</p><p></p><p>I said it made no sense to me, from a parent's viewpoint, why anyone would think increasing appts with parent or kid would turn things around while they refuse to spend one dime on my kid instead. I told him he needs a step-down place where he has to earn his way back home and it really should be Department of Juvenile Justice looking into that instead of automatically thinking of turning the kid over to dss. He started saying "well, if you really don't want him anymore..." and I cut him off. I NEVER said I don't want my son. I said, and have said for 2 years now, that it is in his best interest and gives him the best chance to have to earn his way back home and back into the community by going to a step-down place first, whether that's a group home or Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and gradually integrate back in as he proves he can but he has been incarcerated about 95% of the time since he was 14 yo and he's 16yo now and he has to re-learn how to live in society,. This unlocking the door and letting him free with threats to me if I'm not there to pick him up just isn't cutting it.</p><p></p><p>He said this jurisdiction does have some say so on what services he gets when difficult child is released now that I have moved here. He said since difficult child committed those 2 offenses against me that would justify him looking into a half-way house for him. He had to get off the phone then but said he would explore it as an option and see what he could find out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 404850, member: 3699"] PO called back so I started going off about it all- reminding him of difficult child's offenses that got him committed both times, that I'm the one that called police on him, how I resent having to continue going thru this while difficult child and my relationship continues to get worse and he's not getting any better. Yes, I understand he has to be held accountable but I don't have to set him up for failure by continuing down a path we;'ve been on for five years and hasn't helped him yet or by doing the same thing we tried last year and expecting it to turn out any differently. He asked if I'd consider going to dss and filing for relief of custoody. I said yes but then explained the situation with my bro and what I'd been told by dss in the last jurisdiction and since they are a state agency, it would probably be the same deal here. I said it made no sense to me, from a parent's viewpoint, why anyone would think increasing appts with parent or kid would turn things around while they refuse to spend one dime on my kid instead. I told him he needs a step-down place where he has to earn his way back home and it really should be Department of Juvenile Justice looking into that instead of automatically thinking of turning the kid over to dss. He started saying "well, if you really don't want him anymore..." and I cut him off. I NEVER said I don't want my son. I said, and have said for 2 years now, that it is in his best interest and gives him the best chance to have to earn his way back home and back into the community by going to a step-down place first, whether that's a group home or Residential Treatment Center (RTC), and gradually integrate back in as he proves he can but he has been incarcerated about 95% of the time since he was 14 yo and he's 16yo now and he has to re-learn how to live in society,. This unlocking the door and letting him free with threats to me if I'm not there to pick him up just isn't cutting it. He said this jurisdiction does have some say so on what services he gets when difficult child is released now that I have moved here. He said since difficult child committed those 2 offenses against me that would justify him looking into a half-way house for him. He had to get off the phone then but said he would explore it as an option and see what he could find out. [/QUOTE]
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