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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 569511" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>DSTC--</p><p></p><p>Big (((Hugs))). I know how you feel....we have had more than our fair share of awful tdocs, too...</p><p></p><p>(Did I ever tell you about the one who felt she "cured" difficult child of lying? Ugh!)</p><p></p><p>Now back to your issue...</p><p></p><p>How is difficult child "leaving" a threat? This is the same tactic a toddler uses (I'm running away!). The idea is that you will be so devastated you will do anything to stop them. Is your world going to end because difficult child leaves? Of course not. And depending upon your state - you can just call 911 and have the police bring her home, anyway. </p><p></p><p>I don't know whether I have suggested this before - but I think you really need to sit down and decide what is most important to you (Everyone safe, Peaceful home, Bills paid, etc) and decide which of those things are the top priority. If you do this for yourself, it makes it easier to stand your ground when others make suggestions with which you do not agree. When the therapist says difficult child should go to boyfriend's house, for example, you can say "Well, my number one priority is keeping difficult child safe - and boyfriend's house is not a safe environment."</p><p></p><p>I think you also need to develop a mindset of "These are the rules for THIS house. If you do not like the rules here - you may go find a house that is more to your liking." Many difficult children will promptly take parents up on this...and quickly discover that nobody else is willing to put up with their baloney either....and eventually they come crawling back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 569511, member: 6546"] DSTC-- Big (((Hugs))). I know how you feel....we have had more than our fair share of awful tdocs, too... (Did I ever tell you about the one who felt she "cured" difficult child of lying? Ugh!) Now back to your issue... How is difficult child "leaving" a threat? This is the same tactic a toddler uses (I'm running away!). The idea is that you will be so devastated you will do anything to stop them. Is your world going to end because difficult child leaves? Of course not. And depending upon your state - you can just call 911 and have the police bring her home, anyway. I don't know whether I have suggested this before - but I think you really need to sit down and decide what is most important to you (Everyone safe, Peaceful home, Bills paid, etc) and decide which of those things are the top priority. If you do this for yourself, it makes it easier to stand your ground when others make suggestions with which you do not agree. When the therapist says difficult child should go to boyfriend's house, for example, you can say "Well, my number one priority is keeping difficult child safe - and boyfriend's house is not a safe environment." I think you also need to develop a mindset of "These are the rules for THIS house. If you do not like the rules here - you may go find a house that is more to your liking." Many difficult children will promptly take parents up on this...and quickly discover that nobody else is willing to put up with their baloney either....and eventually they come crawling back. [/QUOTE]
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