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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 136980" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Wish I had the answer. I call it anywhere-but-here-itis. thank you has a severe case of it. </p><p> </p><p>I think for thank you at least it's a case of being completely unable/unwilling to recognize that the issues are internal, not external. He's had a lot of different placements and interestingly (to him anyway) he has the same problems no matter where he is. None of it is on him, though. It's always due to someone/thing else.</p><p> </p><p>He will participate in school.... when he comes home to live (not that he ever did when he was living here).</p><p> </p><p>He will do daily hygiene.... when he comes home to live.</p><p> </p><p>He will you name it when he's anywhere but where he is.</p><p> </p><p>He is completely unable to connect the dots - do it *now* in order to come home. Or better yet, do it now because it's what you're supposed to be doing no matter where you are. </p><p> </p><p>He will only do things on his terms, in his ideal environment which changes when the new placement ends up having the same problems the old one did (as opposed to *him* still having the same problems).</p><p> </p><p>I honestly wish I had the answer for you. I feel like I've been just hammering my head against a brick wall when it comes to this issue. With him now 17, it's to the point that I've told him that he needs to get a life *now* just for the sake of practice. Still deaf ears - he'll do what he's supposed to be doing when he needs to, like somehow he doesn't need to now. </p><p> </p><p>I just don't know how to break thru this incredibly frustrating thought process of his.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 136980, member: 8"] Wish I had the answer. I call it anywhere-but-here-itis. thank you has a severe case of it. I think for thank you at least it's a case of being completely unable/unwilling to recognize that the issues are internal, not external. He's had a lot of different placements and interestingly (to him anyway) he has the same problems no matter where he is. None of it is on him, though. It's always due to someone/thing else. He will participate in school.... when he comes home to live (not that he ever did when he was living here). He will do daily hygiene.... when he comes home to live. He will you name it when he's anywhere but where he is. He is completely unable to connect the dots - do it *now* in order to come home. Or better yet, do it now because it's what you're supposed to be doing no matter where you are. He will only do things on his terms, in his ideal environment which changes when the new placement ends up having the same problems the old one did (as opposed to *him* still having the same problems). I honestly wish I had the answer for you. I feel like I've been just hammering my head against a brick wall when it comes to this issue. With him now 17, it's to the point that I've told him that he needs to get a life *now* just for the sake of practice. Still deaf ears - he'll do what he's supposed to be doing when he needs to, like somehow he doesn't need to now. I just don't know how to break thru this incredibly frustrating thought process of his. [/QUOTE]
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