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<blockquote data-quote="allhaileris" data-source="post: 568040" data-attributes="member: 5663"><p>For us, the reason they gave her back to us at 5 weeks is because they saw the same behaviors in foster, she cut her hair and burned a stuffed animal. We had gotten the school to do a report a year earlier about her Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and Learning Disability (LD). I really don't know how to document it *correctly* before the fact. This is one of the issues I brought up with CPS. There should be some kind of way to register kids like ours so they don't come after us. At least now, when she's a teenager and running away or knocking off the corner liquor store, they'll see our past history. My daughter is a wonderful liar, and one of the issues they had was that they seemed to think all kids told the truth and they could tell if a kid was lying, and that all parents lied. They saw this cute little girl as the victim, and my 6'4" husband as the abuser, no matter what we told them. husband and daughter do fight a lot, and this happened a few months after I had a major injury, so daughter wasn't getting all my attention and was fighting with husband more, and so it was easy to just blame it on him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>CPS just doesn't understand kids like ours. I guess one of the few ways to deal with it is get your child to stop abusing themselves. But how are you supposed to know they'll do it? We all get stressed, and that's one of their ways of dealing with stress, unfortunately. It feeds their endorphins. </p><p></p><p>At this point we have found one social worker who has a child just like ours, we educated her a bit and she helped drop a bunch of hoops we had to jump through. There are social workers who don't work for CPS, right? Can one of them document this? Make sure you get your parents on board with this. They did talk to my Dad, which helped our case.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="allhaileris, post: 568040, member: 5663"] For us, the reason they gave her back to us at 5 weeks is because they saw the same behaviors in foster, she cut her hair and burned a stuffed animal. We had gotten the school to do a report a year earlier about her Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and Learning Disability (LD). I really don't know how to document it *correctly* before the fact. This is one of the issues I brought up with CPS. There should be some kind of way to register kids like ours so they don't come after us. At least now, when she's a teenager and running away or knocking off the corner liquor store, they'll see our past history. My daughter is a wonderful liar, and one of the issues they had was that they seemed to think all kids told the truth and they could tell if a kid was lying, and that all parents lied. They saw this cute little girl as the victim, and my 6'4" husband as the abuser, no matter what we told them. husband and daughter do fight a lot, and this happened a few months after I had a major injury, so daughter wasn't getting all my attention and was fighting with husband more, and so it was easy to just blame it on him. :( CPS just doesn't understand kids like ours. I guess one of the few ways to deal with it is get your child to stop abusing themselves. But how are you supposed to know they'll do it? We all get stressed, and that's one of their ways of dealing with stress, unfortunately. It feeds their endorphins. At this point we have found one social worker who has a child just like ours, we educated her a bit and she helped drop a bunch of hoops we had to jump through. There are social workers who don't work for CPS, right? Can one of them document this? Make sure you get your parents on board with this. They did talk to my Dad, which helped our case. [/QUOTE]
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