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<blockquote data-quote="HopeRemains" data-source="post: 568178" data-attributes="member: 14139"><p>allhaileris- When CPS came the time that biomom had difficult child lie about me slapping him (that was the beginning of all of this "I'm telling my Mom" behavior), I asked her at the end what difficult child had told her in their school meeting, asked if he actually told her I'd done it. She said no, by that point difficult child told her the truth, and if he had told her that I'd done it she would have immediately sent the police to come arrest me at home. Now, when I told therapist about this the other day, he said she shouldn't have said that to me. I'm not sure if he meant it wasn't true or if it was just unprofessional of her to say that. Did they take action against your husband when your situation occured? Was he shackled and all of that? This is what I am afraid of. Maybe the worker would have had me arrested because I am not a blood parent?</p><p></p><p>I am at the end of my rope. husband and I have no real relationship- haven't for years. Between difficult child and his Mom I have horrible anxiety and hyperventilate, panic attacks. My little one is copying difficult child's disrespectful behaviors towards me besides having to sit quietly while difficult child goes through his rages (but he hears everything and is very perceptive) and he gets less good attention from me because I am so preoccupied with difficult child or his Mom at different times. Yesterday I couldn't even look at difficult child. He's only 9, for crying out loud, and I feel such resentment and disgust with him right now that I can't even look at him!? He's done the one thing that I am not willing to stick around to try to help him with. When he threatens me with these lies, I feel he is threatening my little one, too. It's not fair to the little one to have such a depressed, stressed out and threatening environment- and what happens if I am just taken out in cuffs one day? I'm hyperventalating now. I don't think I can do this anymore. I'm not helping. I'm not helping anyone. I've told husband over and over that I don't want to be alone with difficult child, but with his work schedule and living where afterschool care isn't really an option it's never really been an option. I'm stuck. I feel I HAVE no option but to leave. I pretty much stayed when I wanted to leave years ago for the sake of difficult child, but I'm not helping... I'm just taking the brunt of him and his BioMom and my little one is paying for it, too. I know I sound like a really weak and selfish person right now. I am in a very bad place.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HopeRemains, post: 568178, member: 14139"] allhaileris- When CPS came the time that biomom had difficult child lie about me slapping him (that was the beginning of all of this "I'm telling my Mom" behavior), I asked her at the end what difficult child had told her in their school meeting, asked if he actually told her I'd done it. She said no, by that point difficult child told her the truth, and if he had told her that I'd done it she would have immediately sent the police to come arrest me at home. Now, when I told therapist about this the other day, he said she shouldn't have said that to me. I'm not sure if he meant it wasn't true or if it was just unprofessional of her to say that. Did they take action against your husband when your situation occured? Was he shackled and all of that? This is what I am afraid of. Maybe the worker would have had me arrested because I am not a blood parent? I am at the end of my rope. husband and I have no real relationship- haven't for years. Between difficult child and his Mom I have horrible anxiety and hyperventilate, panic attacks. My little one is copying difficult child's disrespectful behaviors towards me besides having to sit quietly while difficult child goes through his rages (but he hears everything and is very perceptive) and he gets less good attention from me because I am so preoccupied with difficult child or his Mom at different times. Yesterday I couldn't even look at difficult child. He's only 9, for crying out loud, and I feel such resentment and disgust with him right now that I can't even look at him!? He's done the one thing that I am not willing to stick around to try to help him with. When he threatens me with these lies, I feel he is threatening my little one, too. It's not fair to the little one to have such a depressed, stressed out and threatening environment- and what happens if I am just taken out in cuffs one day? I'm hyperventalating now. I don't think I can do this anymore. I'm not helping. I'm not helping anyone. I've told husband over and over that I don't want to be alone with difficult child, but with his work schedule and living where afterschool care isn't really an option it's never really been an option. I'm stuck. I feel I HAVE no option but to leave. I pretty much stayed when I wanted to leave years ago for the sake of difficult child, but I'm not helping... I'm just taking the brunt of him and his BioMom and my little one is paying for it, too. I know I sound like a really weak and selfish person right now. I am in a very bad place. [/QUOTE]
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