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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 592805" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>They sound like toxic passive/aggressive bullies. I'm with MWM - their being related to you doesn't mean that you have to be a part of their lives. If they treat you in a way that you wouldn't take from a friend/stranger/co-worker/spouse, don't take it from them. </p><p></p><p>I speak from experience that this is <em>not</em> for the faint hearted. I walked away from a situation like this with my parents 15 years ago and told them I wouldn't tolerate that treatment anymore. I figured it was a starting point for us to have a better relationship. It ended up being the end of my relationship with every family member including nieces and nephews. No one ever spoke to me again. Why? Because I told my parents to let me parent my own kids. Did it nearly kill me inside? Yes. Does it still hurt if I think about it? Yes. Do I miss being humiliated to my face, demeaned to my children, and told how to live my life? Not one bit. I'm a good person and I will never let another person define me in a way that isn't representative of who I am again in my life. </p><p></p><p>Easy? No. Better? Yes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 592805, member: 99"] They sound like toxic passive/aggressive bullies. I'm with MWM - their being related to you doesn't mean that you have to be a part of their lives. If they treat you in a way that you wouldn't take from a friend/stranger/co-worker/spouse, don't take it from them. I speak from experience that this is [I]not[/I] for the faint hearted. I walked away from a situation like this with my parents 15 years ago and told them I wouldn't tolerate that treatment anymore. I figured it was a starting point for us to have a better relationship. It ended up being the end of my relationship with every family member including nieces and nephews. No one ever spoke to me again. Why? Because I told my parents to let me parent my own kids. Did it nearly kill me inside? Yes. Does it still hurt if I think about it? Yes. Do I miss being humiliated to my face, demeaned to my children, and told how to live my life? Not one bit. I'm a good person and I will never let another person define me in a way that isn't representative of who I am again in my life. Easy? No. Better? Yes. [/QUOTE]
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