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<blockquote data-quote="Dixies_fire" data-source="post: 593004" data-attributes="member: 16184"><p>My therapist told me it was completely normal to walk away from people who treat you badly. It completely changed my relationship with my family. I didn't cut myself off but I distanced myself to the point it didn't hurt too much anymore. It took almost two years but for the first time in my life I am getting support from my family instead of treated like koi. It was so empowering when their opinion stopped dictating how I viewed myself and my parenting skills. </p><p>I prefaced my with drawl with telling them what my doctor said about boundaries and people who let others walk on them don't have good boundaries. That I was sick of them believing the worst about me when any other person would tell you I would give you the short off my back. And I was sick of being others crying towel but no one supporting me through my emotional hard ship. I just quit calling and I started only answering the phone when I wanted to. My mom came out for the birth of my child and it was the most pleasant time we had since I was a teen! She was here for a whole month and it did her good to see her oldest grand kid is not an angel and sometimes has very odd behaviors. She has been a rock with all the issues going on with my hubs. </p><p></p><p>I highly recommend setting and sticking with your boundaries and if they care they will take what you are saying seriously. If you don't think you can say it out loud write a letter and hit ignore on the phone a few thousand times.dont let them react to what you said force them to think about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dixies_fire, post: 593004, member: 16184"] My therapist told me it was completely normal to walk away from people who treat you badly. It completely changed my relationship with my family. I didn't cut myself off but I distanced myself to the point it didn't hurt too much anymore. It took almost two years but for the first time in my life I am getting support from my family instead of treated like koi. It was so empowering when their opinion stopped dictating how I viewed myself and my parenting skills. I prefaced my with drawl with telling them what my doctor said about boundaries and people who let others walk on them don't have good boundaries. That I was sick of them believing the worst about me when any other person would tell you I would give you the short off my back. And I was sick of being others crying towel but no one supporting me through my emotional hard ship. I just quit calling and I started only answering the phone when I wanted to. My mom came out for the birth of my child and it was the most pleasant time we had since I was a teen! She was here for a whole month and it did her good to see her oldest grand kid is not an angel and sometimes has very odd behaviors. She has been a rock with all the issues going on with my hubs. I highly recommend setting and sticking with your boundaries and if they care they will take what you are saying seriously. If you don't think you can say it out loud write a letter and hit ignore on the phone a few thousand times.dont let them react to what you said force them to think about it. [/QUOTE]
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