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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 593136" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't think so. In my family, my grandma constantly let me off the hook whenever my mom tried to discipline me. I was a big difficult child and my mom was very justified in her attempts to control me, but I knew I had an ace in the hole. I knew she would never talk back to or go against her own mother and I was grandma's favorite. If she took the car away from me, as I often deserved, I'd take the car anyway and drive to grandma's house and stay for a week or so and my mom would feel like she couldn't say or do anything because back in the day s he had been brought up to respect her mother no matter what and she wouldn't go against her. It was not a good thing for my mother or for me. I see your mom doing the same thing and I think it sends a terrible message. in my opinion grandparents should respect the parental wishes of their grown children and take themselves out of the equation unless there is true abuse going on. I love my grandmother with all my heart, may God bless her soul, but she made me able to be even more gfgish because I knew my mother's hands were tied. (In case you're wondering why I didn't mention my dad or grandfather, both were present, but both didn't pay any attention to me or any of my siblings). Obviously, both of my siblings were angry that I could do almost anything and get away with it because I could just run off to grandma who would shield me from my mom. </p><p></p><p>The two of them ended up constantly fighting with one another in their later years. My mother really resented her for many reasons, this being one. And she took it out on me too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 593136, member: 1550"] I don't think so. In my family, my grandma constantly let me off the hook whenever my mom tried to discipline me. I was a big difficult child and my mom was very justified in her attempts to control me, but I knew I had an ace in the hole. I knew she would never talk back to or go against her own mother and I was grandma's favorite. If she took the car away from me, as I often deserved, I'd take the car anyway and drive to grandma's house and stay for a week or so and my mom would feel like she couldn't say or do anything because back in the day s he had been brought up to respect her mother no matter what and she wouldn't go against her. It was not a good thing for my mother or for me. I see your mom doing the same thing and I think it sends a terrible message. in my opinion grandparents should respect the parental wishes of their grown children and take themselves out of the equation unless there is true abuse going on. I love my grandmother with all my heart, may God bless her soul, but she made me able to be even more gfgish because I knew my mother's hands were tied. (In case you're wondering why I didn't mention my dad or grandfather, both were present, but both didn't pay any attention to me or any of my siblings). Obviously, both of my siblings were angry that I could do almost anything and get away with it because I could just run off to grandma who would shield me from my mom. The two of them ended up constantly fighting with one another in their later years. My mother really resented her for many reasons, this being one. And she took it out on me too. [/QUOTE]
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