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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 119459" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Marcie</p><p> </p><p>I have a similar situation with my family and mother. I can empathize.</p><p> </p><p>It doesn't seem to matter how thick you build the wall of your defenses and think you've put the past behind you when something comes up that seems to yank you back into feeling the way you did as a kid. It still hurts.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry for the passing of your brother. It's a shame he never took the time to know you better and the woman you became. You reached out and tried. You couldn't do more than that.</p><p> </p><p>My mother has a gift for twisting reality to suit her needs/wants. I accepted that long ago when I decided that in order to respect her I had to accept the person she is. Doesn't mean I have to LIKE the person she is, nor does it mean we have to have a close relationship. (and we don't) My sibs believe what she tells them if it suits what they want to believe. You wouldn't believe some of the wild feedback I get on the rare occasion I speak to them. I laugh because it's so darn outragious and their dumb enough to actually believe it.</p><p> </p><p>I keep my distance from that unhealthy drama. I call Mom reg. I'll be polite if my sibs call and such. (no problem as this is maybe once every few years) I don't wish them ill. No hard feelings. Just no real tangible feelings at all.</p><p> </p><p>It's sad. But there is nothing else I can do. Taking the high road doesn't work with my family. After years of getting burned, I finally figured that out.</p><p> </p><p>((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 119459, member: 84"] Marcie I have a similar situation with my family and mother. I can empathize. It doesn't seem to matter how thick you build the wall of your defenses and think you've put the past behind you when something comes up that seems to yank you back into feeling the way you did as a kid. It still hurts. I'm sorry for the passing of your brother. It's a shame he never took the time to know you better and the woman you became. You reached out and tried. You couldn't do more than that. My mother has a gift for twisting reality to suit her needs/wants. I accepted that long ago when I decided that in order to respect her I had to accept the person she is. Doesn't mean I have to LIKE the person she is, nor does it mean we have to have a close relationship. (and we don't) My sibs believe what she tells them if it suits what they want to believe. You wouldn't believe some of the wild feedback I get on the rare occasion I speak to them. I laugh because it's so darn outragious and their dumb enough to actually believe it. I keep my distance from that unhealthy drama. I call Mom reg. I'll be polite if my sibs call and such. (no problem as this is maybe once every few years) I don't wish them ill. No hard feelings. Just no real tangible feelings at all. It's sad. But there is nothing else I can do. Taking the high road doesn't work with my family. After years of getting burned, I finally figured that out. ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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