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Feeling a bit disconnected and stuck in a time warp - A Vent
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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 119604" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Marcie, </p><p></p><p>(I love your new Avatar birdy) tweet! </p><p></p><p>When you left your home as a (what you call) difficult child. Think back a moment. Did you set out to "show" your family that you would (do whatever) or did you set out to "show" yourself what you COULD do? </p><p></p><p>If you set out with the idea of "I'll show you." they weren't looking when you left and they aren't looking now. </p><p></p><p>If you set out with the idea of "I'll show ME" you've shown everyone around you that cares, that you are, always have been, and will continue to be an outstanding Person, Wife, mother, friend who is a hard worker, has bought her own house, raised a family and never asked anyone for a nickel. </p><p></p><p>The people who you think matter - sometimes shouldn't. They are as vacant and distant as strangers. </p><p></p><p>The people who you need to know matter - always do. Even if they don't act like they appreciate you on certain occasions. </p><p></p><p>Your Mother's comment about loosing the last person in her family - was MEANT to hurt you, and it did. You reacted, you said something - you were 13 again jumping up and down going "Hey what about ME? what about ME? I'm here, I'm alive. Don't I count for anything." </p><p></p><p>And even now - the sad truth is - Stella is right - you WERE adopted. </p><p></p><p>Adopted by a family and friends that are SO delighted to know you - a group of us here 'count' and well lady we just happen to think you are something spectacular - </p><p></p><p>So you go ask yourself - after 45 years - is it worth it to keep re-harming yourself? I don't think so - </p><p></p><p>I'm most sorry for your Mother. I'm sorry for her because right in front of her is a daughter that would just give anything to hear one single nice thing or accolade and she's so miserable and enmeshed in her own misery - she's lost more than anyone. Even more than you - at least you can see whom she's lost the ability to praise. </p><p></p><p>the cycle stopped with you marcie - THAT in hindsight is worth more praise than a dysfunctional Mom could ever give - your kids will NEVER feel like you do. To me - it's about the improvements you've made on your life and the lives of your children. </p><p></p><p>there's always going to be teenager in you hoping for an inkling of approval - but you probably aren't going to get it from a Mother who did nothing to stop the cycle herself - </p><p></p><p>Many hugs friend - I for one am VERY glad I got a a chance to know you - I don't think you are 1 in a million - I think you ARE the only one of you there is. </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 119604, member: 4964"] Marcie, (I love your new Avatar birdy) tweet! When you left your home as a (what you call) difficult child. Think back a moment. Did you set out to "show" your family that you would (do whatever) or did you set out to "show" yourself what you COULD do? If you set out with the idea of "I'll show you." they weren't looking when you left and they aren't looking now. If you set out with the idea of "I'll show ME" you've shown everyone around you that cares, that you are, always have been, and will continue to be an outstanding Person, Wife, mother, friend who is a hard worker, has bought her own house, raised a family and never asked anyone for a nickel. The people who you think matter - sometimes shouldn't. They are as vacant and distant as strangers. The people who you need to know matter - always do. Even if they don't act like they appreciate you on certain occasions. Your Mother's comment about loosing the last person in her family - was MEANT to hurt you, and it did. You reacted, you said something - you were 13 again jumping up and down going "Hey what about ME? what about ME? I'm here, I'm alive. Don't I count for anything." And even now - the sad truth is - Stella is right - you WERE adopted. Adopted by a family and friends that are SO delighted to know you - a group of us here 'count' and well lady we just happen to think you are something spectacular - So you go ask yourself - after 45 years - is it worth it to keep re-harming yourself? I don't think so - I'm most sorry for your Mother. I'm sorry for her because right in front of her is a daughter that would just give anything to hear one single nice thing or accolade and she's so miserable and enmeshed in her own misery - she's lost more than anyone. Even more than you - at least you can see whom she's lost the ability to praise. the cycle stopped with you marcie - THAT in hindsight is worth more praise than a dysfunctional Mom could ever give - your kids will NEVER feel like you do. To me - it's about the improvements you've made on your life and the lives of your children. there's always going to be teenager in you hoping for an inkling of approval - but you probably aren't going to get it from a Mother who did nothing to stop the cycle herself - Many hugs friend - I for one am VERY glad I got a a chance to know you - I don't think you are 1 in a million - I think you ARE the only one of you there is. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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