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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar II" data-source="post: 114875" data-attributes="member: 4391"><p>You are doing everything just right, Stands.</p><p></p><p>I agree with Pony and Trinity ~ these are the feelings we need to confront, and dominate. Moms whose children are not in the kinds of trouble our kids have gotten into can respond to these so-intense feelings. These are the normal responses of a parent whose child is in pain or needs help.</p><p></p><p>For parents like us though, helping is not helping.</p><p></p><p>It is enabling.</p><p></p><p>That is why I find comfort sometimes in remembering that addiction changes everyone in the family. It makes everything so much darker, once we understand that loving our children without reservation, loving them the way normal parents can, loving them the way we used to, is not safe for us or the best thing for the child.</p><p></p><p>But if we are strong enough to do this part, we may be strong enough to function as a guidepost, a sign, a way for our wayward child to come back.</p><p></p><p>Thinking like that helps me, sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar II, post: 114875, member: 4391"] You are doing everything just right, Stands. I agree with Pony and Trinity ~ these are the feelings we need to confront, and dominate. Moms whose children are not in the kinds of trouble our kids have gotten into can respond to these so-intense feelings. These are the normal responses of a parent whose child is in pain or needs help. For parents like us though, helping is not helping. It is enabling. That is why I find comfort sometimes in remembering that addiction changes everyone in the family. It makes everything so much darker, once we understand that loving our children without reservation, loving them the way normal parents can, loving them the way we used to, is not safe for us or the best thing for the child. But if we are strong enough to do this part, we may be strong enough to function as a guidepost, a sign, a way for our wayward child to come back. Thinking like that helps me, sometimes. Barbara [/QUOTE]
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